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ashley_mazyck

The long and winding road

Are there any difficult events in your past that made you a stronger person today? If you could go back and erase them, would you?

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  • Yes. Yes.

  • Being bullied for having an androgynous appearance. My stepmother thought it would be a fun idea to force me to wear my hair really short, and my dad thought that girls' clothing was too revealing. I was also very flat-chested as well. So, as a 16 year old, I was either teased for being a boy whose balls didn't drop or a girl that was very plain looking and not very attractive. This has taught me the value of not judging others before getting to know them, and to be more accepting towards people who have distinguishing features. If I could go back, I wouldn't erase the memories. Rather, I'd suffocate the bullies with my cleavage and slay them with my beauty. A fitting punishment, indeed. ;)

  • Yes. All people have their own nightmarish experiences of life that have strengthened them, even if they do not fully realize this truth. And, to be honest, I would not return to the past and erase such events because they have sculpted me into the individual I have become.

  • I would not erase a thing, each event has left a message!!

  • Yeah, quite a few of them which is surprising to fit them all in 19 years. But, I think everything that happened has made me stronger about "myself. I had some tough times during my last years of high school. My best friends getting into some terrible things which turned me more into a solitary person. But, although I was suffering with depression, I learned more about myself and my creative side. This made me concentrate on things which were important. After that, I kept close to the friends that stood by me and I got to know them better than before because I knew myself better. Which made me learn that to know others you need to understand yourself. Might sound like a confusing concept but it worked for me. Also, the other things that happened has made me go through some stressful times - and it still is stressful but I don't want to get bogged down about it. I was to come out on top because I know it will make me a better person.

    Of course, there is times where I wish certain things didn't happen but in my eyes everything seems to happen for one reason or another. It's how life goes. It isn't meant to be covered in cotton candy!

  • There were many events in my past that made me a stronger person. I don't know if I would go back and erase all of them, but I would go back and erase a few. One that I wouldn't erase was all the shit that went down with my mother's family. Everything was fine and dandy until my grandfather died, and then all of my mom's family turned on us. My grandmother said we were taking her money, and all this ridiculous things that made us go bankrupt. The reason I wouldn't erase it is because I would have never gotten out of that place and moved to another state if it didn't happen. I would be content sitting in my little shitty state, and going to a shitty college there, instead of exploring the world like I am doing. I moved to Washington, and then across the states to Vermont, and I am about to move to Alaska. If none of that happened, I would still be in Louisiana...and that is a sad thought indeed.
  • Yeah, when my dad died that was a day! It literally changed my whole life, I moved from Haiti to America. I meet a whole bunch of family and friends that I would never have meet if it wasn't for him dying. My mother had to take on a whole lot of responsibilities which distanced her from me changed and shaping our relationship into what it is today. It cause me and my siblings to become the best of friends and to always have each others back. I became who I am today because of my dad dying. If I could go back and erase what happened would I? I have no clue. I like who I am today and I've come so far that I don't know if I would change it but the possibility of having my dad in my life, well that's also something that I've wanted forever. So I don't have the answer to that question if asked year before it would have been a defiant yes but I've grown and well now i don't know.
  • There are many difficult events in my past. Difficult to me but I'm sure others would cope admirably. But, and it's the big but, I'd never erase them. Wishing things panned out differently is something the human race is good at. When I'm in my dark place it's something that I do over and over. BUT (again with the big but) these events make us who we are. Without them, our entire lives would be different. Without my ex-husband, I wouldn't have my son. Without the ex who made my life a living hell, I wouldn't have met my ex-husband. Without the head fuck before that, I wouldn't have met my evil ex and therefore no ex-husband, no son. Without my first love leaving me, I'd never have gotten back in touch with the headfuck and the chain leads all the way back to me not having my son. Something that is unimaginable to me.

  • First of all, I'd like to think that everyone's answer to this would be a yes.  I mean, we all have trying times in our lives that makes you question whether it's even survivable, but I think it's moment like these when you have to dig down into another place inside yourself to be able to get up and keep moving on.  Those are the people with greatest strength who can get through everything.  I'm usually pretty open with most aspects of my life.  There are a number of moments that I've had like those where I felt so horrible that I didn't think it was possible to ever really be happy again.  I think it's how you choose to pick yourself up though that speaks the greatest amount for your character.

    One of the first things that I went through was my parent's divorce.  After watching a relationship fall apart to the point where I would only ever hear fighting when I got home made me question whether there was such thing as a relationship where both people were happy together and leaned on each other during tough times to get through them.  One of the things they always fought about was money.  I think one of the reasons why I've had an ability to have such good relationships in my life though was seeing both sides of the coin.  After my parents divorced, my dad started seeing my stepmom.  This was my first real understanding that relationships didn't have to be fighting and drama all the time.  My stepmom and my dad communicate well, love each other immenselely, and I've seen them get through things together with a kind of strength I hope to have if and when I get married to someone.  Going through that divorce opened my eyes.  I don't think I'd ever go back an erase it, because it allowed me to see how a good relationship can be, and how to distinguish between a good one and bad one.  It may sound ridiculous, but it made me grateful for that experience.

    I know that if I were to ever go through a divorce, which I sincerely hope that I don't, that if I had kids, I would always have to put them first.  My parents were childish, tortured each other, picked fights, and wrongfully accused each other of things that neither of them did.  They used my sister and I as messengers to pick fights with one another and really got us caught in the middle.  In hindsight I know that they were both wrong, and despite the fact that they were both good people with good and honest intentions, they were fueled by emotion and anger that my sister and I never should have been subject to.  It made me realize that in that situation, regardless of how angry I may be at my former partner, that I would never ever put someone else through what my sister and I went through.  If that's what I came out of this experience knowing, then I can only be grateful.

    Another one of the most trying points in my life wasn't too long ago.  Finding out that someone you care about has been unfaithful is never easy.  It's a hard lesson to learn that sometimes, despite the fact that you've put your trust and love into someone, that sometimes they are going to disappoint you and that's never easy.  But I don't think I would erase that experience either.  For all the memories we shared together and all the experiences we've had, to erase all of that for a few months of hurt wouldn't be worth it.  Not everyone gets to experience being in love, or caring about someone that much and to have that experience I am grateful for.  I learned a lot, learned how to get myself out of bed and move on.  I got my first apartment and managed to get through a year of school working full time.  It was the first time in six years that I was single, and I think that I focused so much energy throughout the first part of my adult life being a good girlfriend to someone else, that maybe I forgot how to put myself first.

    I got to rediscover the things that I was passionate about, wrote a lot, painted a lot, focused on school and spent time with good friends.  I feel as though so many people go out intentionally seeking a relationship.  I think I've grown a lot in that perspective too.  I don't want to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship.  I want to be in a relationship because I like that person for who they are and they like me, and we have decided we want to be together.  I learned to distinguish those people from each other too.  At the end of the day, I don't want to be with someone who just wants to be in a relationship.  I want them to want to be in a relationship with me specifically.

    So I guess what I'm saying is that at the end of the day I've been through some tough stuff, but for all the things that I learned I wouldn't trade it for the world.  Life is not life without both pain and happiness, and I think that experiencing pain makes you appreciate the happiness in your life when you have it.  I love how these things always make me ramble on about something, but I think this one was a pretty good question.

  • сложности были, как и у многих... стереть сложности... хм... да, пожалуй, одну я бы стерла и никогда не стала бы сильней при ее помощи! Процесс принятия решения касаемо жизни... делает нас очень сильными! или ломает! 
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