I just stumbled on to your LJ and this post was very heartfelt, and beautifully written. Well done! (;_;)

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It's so great when people have to validate themselves by shooting their mouths off at somebody vulnerable, isn't it? It's good that the ass eventually apologized, though. Hopefully he meant it.

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that kind of verbal abuse sounds so frightening, and really upsetting X_x I feel so lucky that I've never come across it, and feel ashamed to be part of the same species as the people who did those things. humanity can be scary o_o

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Sorry about that, Erika, and glad Red apologized.
I find it difficult to the point of maddening trying to explain to people who've never had the misfortune to feel threatened what it's like. I just left a job over this very thing. My complaint was foudn to be valid, but only after a screaming fit at my supervisor, plus a call to a harassment hotline.
Not before.
Not when I made the complaint.
Not when my live-in penis (aka the husband) backed me up because he heard the whole thing on my mobile.
A week after. After everything.
After my trust that my company was doing the right thing and in a timely manner was gone.
After my sense of safety and security at a remote site was gone.
After.

Piss me off.

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After reading this I sat in the bathroom and cried. I'm so very, very sorry you have to put up with this kind of thing, and so glad you have the guts to respond (and so eloquently). My long-ago babysitter (who's now a lawyer fighting the good fight) and her partner had a son last weekend, and I hadn't considered how fortunate they are for that freedom...that right...until reading this.

And on a totally random and inappropriate note, Matthew Woodson mentioned to me today that he thinks you're a babe. :)

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You rock, and you handled that wonderfully.

I'm more than a little scared that I'll be treated in much the same manner as you, now that I'm not attached to a man and exploring my preference for women.

You provide a pretty great example though. I hope to handle any shit thrown my way like you did here.

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It took a lot of courage to do this, especially after feeling threatened in the first place.

Probably more courage than I would have had, to be honest. However, it is encouraging to see that intelligent argument overcame ignorance - on this occasion at least.

Hang in there.

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That's sad that you have to deal with stuff like that.

I'm guessing they're pissed off because a pair of really damn-fine looking females doesn't like boys. Jerks.

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Eloquent, Erika...good show :)

Perhaps now, Red will think a bit more before he speaks...

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Woo! Good job on making the jackass apologize - sure he was drunk, but that doesn't excuse anything.

See, the way I (also a man) see it, is that he's afraid, because he's found out that a man is no longer needed in a loving relationship, and he's too macho to start dating men. Poor guy - well at least silicone's almost life-like - I guess the sex he'll have for the rest of his life will be just that. Almost life-like, with a silicone lover.

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having been in similar situations many-a-time meself...i must congratulate you for having the guts to confront that guy in a sensible, intelligent sort of way. and the comic you made about it is really, really beautiful. i love your work so much. oh my gosh golly goodness yes i do.

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that gave me courage. Thankyou. I hope nothing like that comes your way again, but i'm glad you can deal with it so well.
i just wish i had that kind of 'tude at school...and at home really

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im a lesbain also. mi girlfriend never stops talking about you and how she idolizes you. she sent me this link because i am always afraid of showing affection in public (at school). i understand completely what you talked about. you put into words the feelings and frustration that i could not. i thank you for that. im learning to not care about other peoples' remarks as we walk through the halls at school holding hands. it is still very scary, but im learning. thank you.

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(Totally the girlfriend of above poster ^__^) heh, maybe this'll knock some sense into her! Erika, this is commendable not only because you had the guts to fight back, or the perseverance you showed to get a response, but that you fought back against him with absolute class. You could have bitched and yelled and cursed (like I would probably do), but instead you proved yourself better than him by only sending a reasonable and calm letter asking for an apology. I just wish I had that kind of control! *salute to Erika*

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it's very apparent that half a dozen people have already done this, but i must compliment your eloquence. heartfelt and a hell of a lot more mature than you had to be, i tip my hat to you.

also, slick comic.

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