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Do you believe in monogamy?

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  • Absolutely... Do I believe it is the ONLY way?  No Do I believe Polygamy works?  Rarely long term... it takes a maturity, a trust and an openess of communications that is hard to attain... Do I believe Polyamory works? Why do many people NEED this?  To stroke their egos and alleviate self esteem, and it is a hollow promise so it fails.  Hmm?  "I have one partner, but need to have quickies to feel fulfilled"  What is missing in your primary relationship then? All this said, it is NOT for me... been there, DONE it.  I need a man, who puts me as his priority.
  • I believe on the surface monogamy seems more difficult, binding one's self to a single person; however with respect to long-term relationships I believe it's both simpler and easier than polygamy, in which your dedication is divided amongst several people, which under the most strenuous of circumstances prevents you from being able to be there 100% for all of them (simultaneously). Then again, many in monogamous relationships partners simply fail to be there for each other 100% anyway... In short, yes I do, but it's not a universal solution; and I think biologically most are wired polygmatically.
  • I do. Without knowing the dedication of limiting oneself (resisting any temptation that can come up) to one person it can be hard to have trust in a relationship or marriage. If one can't be dedicated enough to devote all of yourself (physically along with in an emotional sense) to your spouse and partner than how can one be devoted to him/her in other ways that make a relationship lasting and valuable? =) No offense to Mormons thought.
  • No, but I believe if you love somebody, than in that moment you will be monogamic.
  • to believe: - to have confidence in the truth, the existence, or the reliability of something, although without absolute proof that one is right in doing so.

    So do I believe that it happens? Well, it clearly does.

    Do I think it's good? Well, it definitely takes a lot of will-power (or just blindness).

  • I'm poly and I don't believe that people should be forced to conform to monogamy, although monogamy is probably fine for the majority of the population.
  • эээ верю, а верит ли она в меня?
  • mo·nog·a·my  (mə-nŏg'ə-mē)  n.  
    1. The practice or condition of having a single sexual partner during a period of time.
      1. The practice or condition of being married to only one person at a time.
      2. The practice of marrying only once in a lifetime.
    2. Zoology The condition of having only one mate during a breeding season or during the breeding life of a pair.
    mo·nog'a·mist n., mo·nog'a·mous adj., mo·nog'a·mous·ly adv.

    1. Well, I definitely believe in it, though it happens less times then it does, unfortunately.

    2. A. Yes. It's probably only because I've grown up here rather than in egypt or something, but, my husband had better only have one wife- me. I couldn't stand having a husband married to even one other person. A husband and wife are supposed to be a couple; couples aren't part of another couple. It doesn't work that way, no matter how you look at it.

    2. B. An entire lifetime? Honey, it's possible to love more then one person. Love can, unfortunately, die. I know that; a lot of people know that. Most divorces are because two people didn't love each other and rushed into marriage too early. I'm fairly sure that those people who divorced would like to marry someone else eventually. I'm all for being able to marry as many people as I'd like throughout my lifetime, as long as it's one at a time. But, yeah, I'd rather stick with one certain person whom I love.

    3. ... /giggle. Yeah right. They're animals and they don't know any better. You have fun trying to tell them whether or not they should only be mating with one certain animal. I'm sure they'll listen. /eyeroll.
  • Do you belive in Ghosts?
  • That it exists and that its possible to work?  Yes.  That its the ONLY solution that works? No.  That its immoral to practice polygamy? No.

    Relationships work because of respect, empathy, sympathy, trust, devotion, loyalty, honesty, faithfulness and many other traits.  Devotion, Loyalty and Faithfulness are the ones most Monogamists claim is their sole property.  Its not.  Faithfulness is not betraying your partner(s).  If a polygamist is in a relationship with someone and also has feelings for another, and wants to have a relationship with them at the same time, as long as both of these partners know about it then he is being honest.  As long as he does not NEGLECT either partner because of the other one then he is being devout.  As long as he doesnt betray a promiss to one for the other he is being loyal.  And as long as FROM THE START his partners are aware AND approving of the other then he is being faithful as he has not gone outside the known and accepted limits his partners have.

    When it becomes wrong is when secrets are kept.  Then its not polygamy its an affair.  Its not polyamourous its cheating, betraying and plain scumbag behaviour.  But as consenting adults all involved have to accept what any relationship mus accept, that there will be personality conflicts differences and disputes and as long as everyone has mutual respect empathy and sympathy for each other you can work thru your differences. 

    That said, I practice monogamy.  But because its my choice.  Its not my right to look down on someone else who might be in a healthy relationship just because its different than my relationships.  Its the type of relatinship someone has that makes it good.  Not the number of participants, and for gods sake not the gender of those involved.  If ANY relationship is based on love and respect, and the other traits mentioned above, then the rest of the world should be envious of the lucky group, whatever its size or composition.

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