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I'm Going to Count to Three...

If you're a parent, what's the hardest part about being one? If you could get one thing to help you out in being a parent, what would it be? What's one thing you wish more parents were better at, whether or not you're a parent yourself?

Answers (8)

  • I wish parents would say "no" and mean it. I'm so tired of them never getting to "three".
  • Creo que cuando uno es padre, abandona su juventud y llega a ser una persona familiar, pero a pesar de to- do, el internet nos ayuda a sentirnos independientes, escribiendo en nuestros blogs y creando,eso es!!!
  • Simple. Don't have kids.
  • Yes I am a parent but in the world where idiots of children govern better to have.
  • I struggled with letting my son out of my sight, be his own person, make his own mistakes. I wish I had been able to read minds. And not just his ... the people, kids and adults, around him. I was a single parent until he was nine. I worried all the time. Even after he became an adult, joined the Navy and was a part of Desert Storm. Heck, I still watch the weather channel in his area. The really nice thing is he watches the weather channel in my area. He's turned into such a good man, I guess I didn't screw up too bad.
  • The hardest part of being a parent is dealing with the ever present 'experts' who give free advice. Before the mid-twentieth century, parents raised their children. When they needed help, they went to their own parents. The village got involved when there was a failure. Then, the 'experts' told American mothers that they were doing it wrong and fewer and fewer were brave enough to follow their parenting instincts. Finally, after sixty or seventy years, mothers are publicly pushing back and writing books about it. Examples include the Tiger Mom and Free-Range Children. Not every parent is alike, and not every child is alike, but the system treats them all as if they were. Children need love and consistency from their parents, but other than that, everything else is unique to the individual. I am entering one of the final stages of parenthood, which is the giving of advice. If my children don't know how to take care of themselves by now, then I have not done my job! They are almost ready to be parents themselves. Personally, I do not plan on being a parent again. It will be their job to set the boundaries and do the major portion of the teaching for their own children. It would be beneficial if more parents had confidence in themselves and were able to shed the shackles of perfect expectations. A child is not an adult, but a child should be in training to be an adult. They don't need constant activity; they need time to play and to think. Give them reasonable guidelines, set some rules, teach them values, then respect their choices. A child may look like a "mini-me" but he or she is a unique person with unique tastes, unique needs, and unique understanding. The parent should be the leader, and leaders lead. Leaders also listen. It wasn't easy, and it was often scary, but my children have become wonderful adults.
  • I wish that more parents were better at communicating with their kids. Talking and listening, rather than just assuming that children are from another world that they will never understand...