Bluntness. Some call it 'honesty'. Honesty itself is a virtue that can be quite gentle, healing, and soothing. Bluntness charges headfirst into the situation with neither thought nor reason. Blunt people speak the truth without regard for another's feelings.
I am blunt because I forget to control my mouth and tend to say exactly what is on my mind. I'm working on correcting that.
I guess it would be my desire to please others. I had to watch carefully not to be pressured into saying "yes" to things like PTA commitments that I knew I couldn't meet. I knew my limits and had to learn to stand firm and decline politely (but without backing down!!)
“There is a stubbornness about me that never can bear to be frightened at the will of others. My courage always rises at every attempt to intimidate me.” – Miss Elizabeth Bennet
My honesty, it seems...
However, there's a different between being mean and being honest. If you don't want to hear that your hair looks like shit, don't ask.
Definitely my temper. I'm surprised that my sarcasm and inability to keep my mouth shut at bad times hasn't gotten me in trouble at all, one night at work a lady was complaining about us having to charge her for chili on her hot dog, and extra extra whipped cream on her sundae or whatever. So she asked for a spoon and I said "Oh, well I could charge you for THAT too..." and walked straight into the cooler. I'm such an ass like that. "Aw, Aaron, you mean you're not gonna sit on Jessica's lap anymore? Why get a chair, I mean, she's RIGHT THERE."
I'm pretty lucky that I have instructors and such that understand my temper, and usually when I do go off, they were just better at not blowing up than I was, so they help me out with that.
I found this in a journal entry that I wrote a hella long time ago, and I was thinking about it this morning, actually. We're supposed to do a paper for psych concerning this same sort of thing.
I absolutely ABHOR being angry. I hate it so much that I can't remember what exactly has happened when I've gotten angry since I became an adolescent, meaning I either block it out or black out. I get flashes of "Oh, that one time I remember trying to fight dad off with a cookie sheet," or shaking down to my very foundation from trying NOT to hulk out on anything, but I don't have a clue as to why I got that angry in the first place. I know I've been in my car angry quite a few times; all the evidence is there. Part of my classic Beetle steering wheel is gone, the paint around my door is chipped from slamming it so hard (on both sides... I made Philip pretty angry once too).
The feelings of my systems kicking in after the fact aren't too great either. A sick stomach, a headache, fists, legs and what have you hurting; the emotional realization of what you COULD have done, and how you may have hurt someone you love, it's not a good thing to deal with.
I'm sure other people have experienced it just as bad or worse than I have, but I can't see how anyone would like this feeling. That's why I'd definitely like to change it in some other way than just making it go away and bottling it all up. That way there's no way to let it out the way it should be let out.
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The personality trait that got me in the most trouble...hmm...has to be my ability to speak freely. I speak my mind, I really don't care what other people think about me. But, it's got me in major trouble before, mainly with teachers =P.
1- high self-esteem , im very confidint and people seems to think im a cocky.
2-i never do what people try to make do it by forcing or ordering,they have to be polite and i have to be conviced or i'll
never do it . (PRIDE).
My moodiness. I am very off and on and people don't know how to respond or interact with those moods.