I can't say as though there are many secrets I had wished I'd kept, to be honest. I am actually pretty good at keeping secrets if I KNOW they're a secret. There are some secrets I leaked because no one told me they were secrets, but I can't say as though that really counts. I've taken secrets to the other person's grave and sometimes even beyond. There are things my friend Krystel told me that she said she hadn't told anyone else and they're things that I won't be relating, either, even though she's passed. There are things people have told me in the strictest of confidence, bounced ideas off of me, got my opinions and thoughts, and later have come out and announced their decisions, but I was there with them through that decision making process and I never said a word unless they asked me about it first. When they mentioned it, when people asked me what was said or how they came to that decision, I tell them to take it up with the person who asked because it's not my place to say. It was said in Proverbs (yes, I'm quoting the Bible), A wise man speaks rarely. Lao-tzu has said, "He who knows does not speak. He who speaks does not know." and "To know that you do not know is the best. To pretend to know when you do not know is a disease."
I find great wisdom in these quotes and my sleep addled brain is drawing conclusions that might not make sense under tomorrow's light, but I'll attempt to make sense of it. I think many people would do well to realize they need to keep their mouth shut, speak less, don't offer information or commentary unless asked and to admit when they do not know something instead of pretending to know and later being proved wrong, hence the following quote by Twain, "Tis better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt."
How many times has someone told you something you believed was on good authority and later found was nothing more than someone shooting off their mouth to have made conversation or, worse, to make themselves look more important? Didn't your opinion of said person break down after a time, especially when the authority on the subject denied everything ever said?
Close mouth, engage brain, put a damper on pride and vanity, re-engage brain and then speak, but only if necessary. If someone didn't ask for your opinion, don't give it. Sit back, close your mouth. People listen more to a man who doesn't speak.
‘By three methods we may learn wisdom:
First, by reflection which is noblest;
second, by imitation, which is the easiest;
and third, by experience, which is the bitterest.’