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If forced to give up one, which would you choose: love, friendship, or family?

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  • I'm assuming that when talking about love in this question, the asker means romantic love. That's usually what people mean when they say love, unfortunately. Not that there's anything wrong with romantic love. I like romantic love. One might even say I love it. But it is far from the only form of love that exists. And it is also, I daresay, not necessarily the most important. There is love in friendship and family. If there wasn't, they wouldn't be worth much. I DIGRESS. So I'm going to reword this question. "If forced to give up one, which would you choose: romance, friendship, or family?" My first instinct is to say romance. Even now, five months into marriage with a hard-working man, I see romance as mostly expendable. But the problem is that I don't see MY romance as expendable. Now that I have been with him for 4+ years, I could never give up my relationship with T. However, in order for that relationship to function at its best, I feel like I also need family, which for me, mostly means my parents. Especially as a newlywed, I need their input and grounding influence. I also feel that good friends are necessary for a successful romantic relationship, for many of the same reasons. Not to mention the issue of balance. It's really not to healthy to focus all your time and energy on only one relationship to the exclusion of all others.
  • Love. I would give up love and keep friends and family because love is just a feeling, while friends and family are people and much more important.

  • Love. I can live without it. It's a nice thought, but I don't need it. I've already come to accept the fact I won't ever settle down and marry.
  • Family. In all honesty. They've never really been there for me. and Ive had so many good friends that were more of a family to me than my family would ever be. and my love...I could never let her go.
  • If I was forced to choose between the three, I would choose to lose my Family 'couse most of the times, relatives are so fucking annoying. I would never choose to lose my love 'cause, as the song says "He said to lose my life or lose my LOVE that's the nightmare I've been running from" and the same goes for my friends because sometimes, friends can offer you more support than your family ever could try to.
  • kmccully took my answer. :)
  • Since none of them have been particularly reliable lately, I can't really choose.
  • As sad as it is, hands down I would give up family. My father doesn't care about me, and keeping friendship would allow me to keep my relationship with my mother - we're friends, rather than mother and daughter.

    Without love, I wouldn't be able to feel any sort of attachment to my friends; I love each and every one of my true friends very dearly, and wouldn't give them up for the world.
    Without friendship, I wouldn't be alive today. It's as simple as that.
    Without family... well, I wouldn't be missing much. I don't really have much of one anyway - I spend all my free time locked in my room, or outside away from society, at least when I'm not with my beloved friends.
  • Any choice I made would give me all three, as they are an indivisible whole in my life, an interlocking trinity. They simply go hand in hand with each other. My immediate family are my dearest friends, whom I love and who love me in return.
  • Does love mean I won't be able to love my friends or family? If it means love as in relationships then I would give that up, but if it means I couldn't love family or friends then I have no idea. Bit of a weird question if thats the case.
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