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Have you ever said something to an online friend that you would never say in person? Do you think it's easier to discount real feelings when a relationship takes place largely online? Can the emotional disconnect become habit-forming?

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  • да говорить приходилось, не нужно в интернете затрагивать разговоры касающиеся личных взаимоотношений. Все подобные разговоры следует отложить до личной встречи.

  • Yes, people know me in different ways, and depending on how they know me I choose to represent myself in different ways, to place emphasis on different aspects of myself. There are things that I would discuss with strangers that I would rather not discuss with people who know me well, and things that I would rather discuss with a trusted, long time friend than a stranger. Overall the difference is largely due to what is appropriate in context and how comfortable I feel in relation to the media and the people involved. A relationship such as friendship, something more abstract, or meaning something romantic or sexual? In regards to friendship, no. In regards to something more abstract, yes, as I do not know the person nor have many ideas about them. I may even doubt their actual existence, or assume that they are there, or that they are misrepresenting themselves to gain something at my expense. Often this is true, one only has to look at craigslist, a poorly protected online forum, or their email to see how much spam gets in. As for something romantic or sexual, I have no idea. Can the emotional disconnect become habit-forming? I assume a person could develop a physiological dependency on such a 'disconnect', though I do not know how that would occur, or what such a 'disconnect' even means.

  • Yes i have , only because when you dont see the person face to face its easier to tell them anything . Thats why you can never tell if they can lie or not . I believe its not a good idea to have a relationship online , because first of all you guys have never meet, and one person could be lying to you , he/she might say shes 16 but in real life he/she could be 35 . And one can be a cereal killer, so you must always really know the person and know you meet them before. Im not about the emotional disconnnect becoming habit forming maybe for some it could be , but for others not .
  • I've definitely told people things by texting or online that i probably wouldn't have guts to tell them in person which thinking about it now actually seems sorta stupid. But i think that by telling someone via text or via messaging it give you a certain amount of disconnect that maybe is good. I mean I do it because I'm too scared to face the rejection or humility of doing it in person. I've never had a relationship that takes place largely online but I can see how that would make it easier to discount real feelings because you're not WITH the person, you're not touching them or looking into their eyes, you can't read their expression, all you've got is the words that they reply with and sometimes actions or gestures say more than words.

  • Well people tend to find out more off me online than they do offline and in real life, or so i have been told.

  • Безусловно делился, и не раз, и, знаете, видел в этом достаточно много позитива. Интернет, как способ коммуникации, позволяет в некой мере скрыть наши чувства и эмоции, и во многом именно эта возможность позволяет сбрасывать с себя тяжелые грузы личностных переживаний и неудач, обмениваясь информацией с незнакомыми такими же как и вы людьми. Это своего рода способ исповеди, только несколько более закрытый. Что же касается сетевых взаимоотношений, то это во много зависит от лиц, которые принимают участие в этом коммуникативном процессе. Если мы преследуем цель максимально открыться друг другу, то это действительно упростит выражение истинных чувств, однако мы не можем быть на 100% уверенными что противоположный контакт, аналогичен в изъявлении чувств нам.

    И всё же доверять человеку проще в реальной жизни, чем в виртуальной, сетевой. Стандартный, природный процесс коммуникации человечества позволяет обмениваться всё же большим количеством информации, так как в этом процессе задействованы практически все информационные системы человека: слух, зрение, осязание, обоняние и др. При таком общении, мы помимо вербальной информации можем воспринимать и невербальную - различные жесты, сознательные и бессознательные движения.

    Общение через Интернет конечно же не может позволить передавать информацию всеми этими способами.

  • 1. Да, приходилось. Это как в преферансе - если вист меньше, чем по 5 копеек, то начинаешь хулиганить и ходить на мизера с тремя дырами.  
    2. Конечно, легче. Можно болтать, что в голову придет, называть разные глупости "истинными  чувствами", хотя никто понятия не имеет ни об истине, не о чувствах.
    3. Безразличие к чужим чувствам стоит у каждого в его ЭГО по умолчанию. И привыкать к этому не надо!  ОК
  • Yes. Yes. And Yes. That is all.
  • I consider online friends to be just as much friends as people I know in the flesh. (I can't say "IRL" there, because, for me, a friend is a friend, no matter how I communicate with them). I'm sorry if that didn't answer the question, but that's how I feel.
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