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Do you keep tabs on ex-boyfriends and -girlfriends over social networking sites? Do you think it's emotionally healthy or dangerous? Amusing or painful?

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  • Раньше да..я следила...только думаю -это занятие неблагодарное..только нервную систему себе портить..ведь у каждого свои грани дозволенности, если человек тебя любит-то не переступит их, а если нет- то от этого толку ни какого не будет... Просто девушке надо следить за собой, не замыкаться на одном человеке, общаться с подругами...И тогда все будет хорошо..
  • Ни в коем случае...Прошлое должно остаться в прошлом.
  • I have. I've gotten to the point where it doesn't matter anymore, and it feels awesome. Friend of mine lost his shit at his brother when he noticed his brother looking up his old girlfriend, who was belittling and a complete bitch. My other friend and I had to explain to him that sometimes it took that sort of process to help get over a person, and that it could actually be a good thing in the long run.

  • There's one ex boyfriend that is my friend on facebook. I don't think there's anything wrong with it as he and I left the relationship amicably and have been friends ever since.

    I haven't tried to look up any others (not that there's that many more) just because I don't want to revisit those days. It's called a break up cuz it's broken, you know...


  • О да, люблю, да ещё как! Это доставляет мне своего рода удовольствие:)

  • Actually, the subject heading amuses me, because it seems to imply doing so without their consent or approval.  Yes, I am friends with many of my ex's online, and I find it very healthy.  We may have hurt each other in the past, but hey--we were kids!  When you get out of that high school drama existence and truly mature, you find that what initially brought you together can become the basis of a great friendship.

    Now, that's not to say there isn't some pain involved.  I tried to reestablish a friendship with one of my ex's and he shot me down in flames.  I don't think he understood that I had no more romantic feelings for him, but that he had a very special place in my memory and I wanted to try to be friends.  Who knows, perhaps he couldn't be just friends.  His loss.


  • I'm not even certain any of my exes USE the internet. Look, I dumped these guys for a reason. Do you think I really care what the hell they're up to?


  • I do, just to know how they're doing. It's probably emotionally dangerous but oh well. And the amusing/painful thing varies on how well they're doing in life compared to how well I'm doing.
    Horrible, right?

  • Это не здоровый интерес. Я этим не болею. Все бывшии в прошлом.

  • Sometimes I will search for them online, primarily just to assure myself that they are okay and doing well. 

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