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Secret Crush

Everyone knows having a crush at the office or in class can make the time pass a little bit quicker. Is it better to keep your crush a secret or tell them how you feel?

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  • It depends. No really. It has to be at the right time.

    My first few crushes (ever in my life) were my friends. I told them, and we were never the same again. When I entered college, I developed another crush on someone, I told him and again we were never the same. I got tired of all that crap. After a while, I developed another crush and this time, he was my closest friend in college. I held it in and kept it secret. I told one of my friends about it, and he told me to tell him how I felt. Of course, because of my past experiences, I was like, "Are you kidding me?! He'll avoid me! Blah blah blah~".  But he told me that he wasn't that kind of person and he was sure that he wouldn't avoid me. It took me a while to think about it. Then that time came, it took all I could to finally tell him how I felt. I consider that the very first time I realized I was a freaking girl. Seriously. A few days later, he told me the feeling was mutual. You all know what happened next. ^^

    Now, here I am, single and available, prancing around UERMMMC. Well, I'm not exactly prancing, but it's a better word to hear/read than studying. >.< Anyway, I learned to keep my mouth shut until I know the time is right. Apparently, now isn't the right time. It was hard to do, to be honest; going on with my med life and him being oblivious. Many times I feel like blurting it out, but I get the better of myself. For one, he doesn't really show any interest. Two, he seems to be liking someone else. These two are signs that I should keep my mouth shut and that telling him would be suicide. I've accepted it though. I can hardly talk to him anyway, thanks to some unknown circumstances (which really bugs the hell out of me, considering I am an expert at speaking with the opposite sex, regardless if I crush on them or not). Only three four people in class know this secret. I fear that in a matter of time, this secret is going to pop out of the box completely. Hopefully, when that time comes, I wouldn't give a crap anymore. Unfortunately, I don't think it's very soon yet. @_@

    Indeed, having a crush helps time to pass by more quickly. It feels nice, and even better if it's mutual. However, sometimes you have to realize when it's hopeless. I've reached that point, and accepted it. But why am I still crushing? I guess you could say I'm walking on tightrope here, but see, I can keep my balance. It feels nice, it helps me forget the difficulties I have to go through in med school. Even though I know full well that the feeling is not mutual, it really is completely fine with me (no jealousy, in other words). If there will come a time I will tell him, it will probably be when I won't see him again. Lol. That would most probably be the right time.
  • What the heck? http://community.livejournal.com/teamlj/14313.html I don't even remember yesterday at lunch. Did something happen? Hmpf.
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  • I am quite a coward, you know. Still, when I learn to wise up and gether my courage, I'll tell the girl how I feel. Until then, I remain by her side, watching her with a caring eye.
  • fuck off it's my birthday well, it was... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bRk-70C8Nuo
  • About a year ago I would have said that it would be better to keep your crush a secret, espesually if that crush is your boss. The reason that I would have told you this is becuase this is what I was doing at the time. I had only been working at this job for about four months and in that time I had developed a crush on my boss. At first I would just ignore it, then I gave into the fact that I had a crush and I would stay after work just to talk to him.
    I know for sure that my boss would have told you something different. He would tell you that you should let your feelings be heard even if you could get rejected. He didn't get rejected. After a couple of months of crushing my boss told me how he felt and asked me out. We have been together for almost a year now.
  • Конечно же лучше оставить в секрете!!! Но! Я всю школу любила одного мальчика скрытно, мама открыла мне глаза, она сказала, что это видно и чтоон давно это заметил. И наверное она права. Так что все равно любовь, как и влюбленность видно! Вот. А иногда так и хочется, чтобы он тебя вычислил и ты подстраиваешь своё разоблачение ;-)
  • First post on here, and writer's block, right off the bat!  Hopefully I'll be more interesting in the future. Well, This question just happens to fall into the main theme of several goings-on at my school.  I have one particular friend who is the master of unrequited love.  She managed to find a guy at a nearby Starbucks who struck her fancy very effectively.  His hair, especially, but superficial love is a completely separate topic.  Anyway, this guy, let's call him Tomas, didn't talk much.  But my friend, let's call her Faith, Was full in love with the guy.  She became a complete stalker.  She saved his receipts, the only reason she knew his name.  Faith even went so far as to take covert pictures on her phone.  I haven't gotten her to admit it yet, but I'm fairly certain she made a shrine at home.  This whole game of keep-away was fun, but a few other friends and I started pushing for Faith to talk to Tomas.  She was at the Starbucks daily, and knew his working hours, so we figured, "Come on!  Don't just stare!"  But, as fate would have it, Faith could not.  As soon as she started trying to talk to Tomas, he ended up leaving.  We haven't seen him since.  So, the way I figure, crushes can go unnoticed, and tend to be more fun that way.  However, if you play your cards right, in other events (I'll save my friend Casey's story for another day) crushes are much more fun when pried open.  So, I guess the moral of this story is: Do what you will, just don't be a creep. I'm screwed.
  • SECRET! :D
  • i keep it a secret, in fear of rrrrrrrrrrrejection its probably BETTER to keep it to yourself if there are 100% no signs of them being interested in you if you know them more than skin deep and you still feel a ~crush~ on them, maybe you should tell them
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