tsaiko: Anime club blues

Tsaiko (

tsaiko) wrote,
@ 2004-02-05 16:39:00

Current mood:

annoyed

Anime club blues
Disquieting emails and creepy people at anime club that I need your advice on how to deal with all at Dance of the Hours.

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akiko
2004-02-05 09:53 pm UTC (link)

There's a guy like that at COUP. A couple, actually. This one in particular, though, was worse as a freshman. Anyway. I've found that letting him know in no uncertain terms that he's doing something to annoy me works pretty well. He hasn't bothered me in a while. But then, I'm well-known to be a bitch. That's why I'm the Enforcer.

A few years ago, we were walking as a death squad from dinner to the meeting, and this guy gets down in the grass and grabs my ankle. I yelled at him never to do that again.

He has this habit of joining conversations and adding information that's not even relevant (in a discussion of Suikoden, he butts in with something about Dragon Warrior 7 or something.) He reads over people's shoulders. I told him, "you don't read over people's shoulders. It's rude."

I had the dubious pleasure of meeting his father while I was on rotation. Apparently, he gets his medicine at the pharmacy I was at. It's obvious he didn't learn any social skills from his dad.

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agrajag
2004-02-05 09:54 pm UTC (link)

Hmm.. well there is my initial thought, however I'll be kind and not mention it on here :) Of course, I now realize that might encourage him.

Hrm.. hire Jiyuu to be your bodyguard and scare him away? That might work.

I am kinda amused though. The guy asking you about GIS then went ot to start a conversation with Josh.. and I got the impression that Josh really wasn't interested in that convo, but didn't know how to get out of it.

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	lighthawk 2004-02-05 10:14 pm UTC (link)
	That guy was really beginning to piss me off by the end of the day. I'm a polite person, but I think I'm going to make an exception with this guy. If I'm having a conversation with you or another friend and he butts in, I'm going to bluntly tell him to fuck off. He really irritated me. And I can't take it anymore. ~LH The pissed one. (Reply to this)(Thread)

	Re: skyknyt 2004-02-06 01:01 am UTC (link)
	I'm with Lighthawk here. Be blunt. It will save a lot of time and get the same message across. skye (Reply to this)(Parent)

itlandm
2004-02-05 10:16 pm UTC (link)

For various reasons, some of us simply don't have a clue. And never will, unless someone clues us in. You would probably do the guy a service if you looked at him and declared: "You are acting really rude and creepy. Please stop." Of course, he might actually be a loon, but in that case it is still better to nip this in the bud instead of letting him daydream about you for half a year before you crush his heart. If you find it hard to say it to him directly, perhaps you could get one of the guys to convey the message.

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ainokitsune
2004-02-05 11:44 pm UTC (link)

Sounds like creepy evil guy thinks he has some sort of license to you--as evidence by the saying 'hi' repeatedly, as though he's trying to remind you of the fact that--*gasp!*--you're ignoring him.

Um, only way I could think to handle this guy is one of two--either get in his face and tell him to fuck off--something I wish I'd done with my own stalker guy, or get his ass banned from the club. i know from firsthand experience niceness doesn't work and these sorts of people don't know how to take no for an answer.

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keep me informed.

cneko
2004-02-06 12:00 am UTC (link)

Dude...let me know if this continue. Really. That asshole is in my fantasy class too and annoys the hell outta me. If he's doing something to hurt my TAAS members or make them uncomfortable it'll give the excuse I need to tear into him. I can also corner him after class if you like.

If he KEEPS doing even after I've had my little say with him I'll kick him out of the club and get Jiyuu to enforce it.

There's rudeness. There's creepiness. And then there's this guy.

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herongale
2004-02-06 12:34 am UTC (link)

I suggest you look him directly in the eye, hands on hips (arms crossed would be defensive), and say, "Excuse me, you're interrupting me. I'm not interested, thanks." Then you ignore whatever else he says, except to say "I'm not interested," over and over at appropriate intervals whenever he tries to interrupt. Make sure to glance at him each time so he knows that you are not afraid of him.

The best retort is not fancy or rude, but simply direct and confident. I trust you can take care of it.

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	white_jasmine 2004-02-06 12:52 am UTC (link)
	Could you firmly move him OUT of your way? (Reply to this)(Thread)

	Re: cornucopian 2004-02-06 01:41 am UTC (link)
	Direct contact can be considered assult. I'm not sure if he'd go out of the way to press charges, but it's best to stay on the legal side of things. Best of luck with getting him off your back. (Reply to this)(Parent)(Thread)

	Re: white_jasmine 2004-02-06 01:47 am UTC (link)
	He sounds absolutely awful, I've got to say. ^^ My sympathies. Maybe you and whoever you're having a conversation with could just walk away from him and keep doing that? Or telling him to 'fuck off' might work as well. (Reply to this)(Parent)

lithele
2004-02-06 02:15 am UTC (link)

Unfortunately, I can't think of any good advice to give for a situation like this. Usually my way of dealing with scary people is just ignoring them, and that...doesn't seem to be working for you. Persistent bugger! You could always come to our anime club meetings over here. Everyone actually has adequate social skills in our club! (SHOCK!!) ...or not. I would agree with the people above who said to just tell him directly not to interrupt you, or that he's being rude. Or obnoxious. Or something. Sometimes when I took the ignore path, I regretted it later--it would have been less painful for the other person (and me, to an extent) if I had just said at the beginning that they were pissing me off. ...probably less pain in the end just to tell him he's rude, back off. Hopefully he'll take THAT hint.

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	kemayo 2004-02-06 02:47 am UTC (link)
	Arrr! Walk the plank! Savvy? (Reply to this)

	velithya 2004-02-06 02:42 pm UTC (link)
	Everyone else has pretty much said anything I might have had to add. Good luck with getting him off your back. hugs (Reply to this)

(Anonymous)
2004-02-06 04:33 pm UTC (link)

Don't be anything but totally blunt. Don't show any sign of actually wanting to deal with the guy on any kind of civil level. If there's the slightest apparent foothold, he'll latch on. You've already done too much to encourage him. (Yes, you have!) I don't know where this kind of person comes from or what bizarre combination of genetic and social circumstances produces them, but there can be no compromising with them. You should've recognized the type right away. If he won't leave, have the officers ask him to leave. If that doesn't work, call the campus cops/security. I'm serious.

~Robbie

p.s. babynamer.com is also good =)

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sugahlei
2004-02-11 03:43 am UTC (link)

okay, wow, it took me a few days to find this--but damn! creepy anime man! it isn't the one who followed you in the classroom to read the smut, is it? O_O

and i'd have to agree with some of the previous...tell him he's being rude, and wait his turn, or back off. "This is my bubble. Stay out of my bubble."

Damn. Hope he gets stuck in a closet somewhere with a rabid teenybopper. And some evil things. Yeah.

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	Re: tsaiko 2004-02-11 12:13 pm UTC (link)
	laughs No that was a whole other person. I would actually be nicer to this guy if he was just in denial about liking gay smut. Instead, I get the feeling he is doing this to try and get me to like him. I'm not interested and I can't believe him thinking that one conversation would indicate that I was interested. Oh well, tonight is anime club. I'll work through it then. (Reply to this)(Parent)

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