| Jan. 12th, 2006 @ 11:20 am surrendering |
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Heart's condition: : spent
I was at one of my local haunts, nursing a cup of the Elixer of God, (coffee) and listening to a young man in his twenty somethings, whine to any and all who would give him their ear for a moment. Apparently the gist of his complaint was that after he got home from work, his wife wanted him to take care of the kids for and hour or two while she could go out and jog. Then on the weekends when he wanted to go skiing with his friends from, work she would throw a snit. So that seemed as good a place to jump in to this as any. So I asked him, why he didn't just take his family with him? His answer was, because they're no fun any more!!!I asked him how long he had been married and he said 4 years and I asked how old were the kids and he said 1 and 3. So then I asked him what he considered his responsibilities were as a Father? His response was, to provide housing and food and clothing. I said well, that covers the first 1/10 of one percent. What else? He said, what do you mean what else? I said what about Love, compassion, teaching them stuff, for the kids and then being there for your wife. He looked at me with and honest blank stare that told me he had no clue about what I was talking about. So I just asked if he had ever gone to church, read the Bible and was he Christian. He said his mom use to drag him to the mass on sunday and he never under- stood any of it and then when his parents divorced she (mom) stop goin'. He didn't think he was a christian(honest response)and he tried to read the Bible a couple of times, but it was in a funny dialect of english, so he quit trying. Since had been open to what I had said so far, I pushed ahead. I bought him a refill and we talked about Dadhood. We talked about 2 1/2 hours. Well, I talked and he would ask questions and I would answer them. Then in came the wife, and she was a little upset, because he had evaporated on her while she was doing grocery shopping with the munchkins in tow. Sometimes the fastest way for silencing crying children is to have them meet a stranger. I introduced my self to mom and said to her, We are going to leave the munchkins with Dad here, while you and I are going over on the otherside of the coffee house to chat. Mom liked the sound of that, especially when I sweeten the deal with the drink of her choice. So then we sat down and then I revealed my other side,(clergy) and then asked her about the Bible and Church and she is a Christian and reads the Bible and prays alot to God. I asked her what she prayed about most to God? She said, that my husband would learn what being a Father and Husband was all about. I said, well God has begun answering your prayers because for the last 2 1/2 hours I have been giving him a crash course in Dadhood 101. So then I gave her my card, and I told her she could call me or email me or my wife and we would be more than happy to invest our vast knowelege(lol) of parenting and husband/wife relationship. She said, well we don't have a lot of money, I said don't let that be a factor in your calling. That's why I'm called Faithwalker, God seems to provide the most when the need is greatest. Then I asked her if she had a Bible that wasn't in the King James Version and she said she did and I said give it to your hubby. Then we rejoined Dad who was having a great time with his kids, to the amazement of his wife and I bid my farwells and Dad came out to the truck and thanked me for "setting him straight". I told him he was welcome and that his wife has my card and if the need arises to call me and he said he would. I told him his wife had a Bible in contemporary english and to start with the four gospels in the New Testement. He said he'd do that and we parted. Surrendering isn't about giving up, it is the first step twoards a new begining! Be blessed Faithwalker |