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Several months ago, I was asked by a fan of mine, Eric Russell, to come speak to his high school Gay-Straight Alliance. (He's a faculty advisor for the group.) At the time, I was a little wary. "Are you sure this is okay?" I kept asking, over and over again. After all, Virginia is a red state; Richmond was the capital of the Confederacy. He assured me he'd cleared it through his principal, and not only were the students excited, but the librarian was as well. So, I found myself, whenever I thought about it, kind of bemused at my own prejudices about Virginia, and red states in general. Obviously, my preconceived notion that red states are hotbeds of intolerance, ignorance, and hatred masquerading as Christianity and 'family values' was pretty off base.

Yesterday, after coming home from a three hour, eleven load ordeal at the laundromat, I checked my email to find one from Jonathon Harper at Lambda Book Report, stating that a reporter from the Richmond Times-Dispatch was trying to reach me about my appearance next week, and that he'd given him my contact information, How nice, I thought, shaking my head again at my own ignorance and preconceived notions, they are actually going to interview me for the paper, something my own local papers have never done.

Of course, the next email in my inbox was from the reporter, Julian Walker, and so I clicked to open it and started reading. "Dear Mr. Herren, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I am pretty certain no one else has contacted you yet..."

As I continued to read, my emotions went up and down the scale. Horror, shock, anger, outrage. My visit to the campus was being cancelled as 'inappropriate.' A 'concerned parents group' had circulated an email call-to-arms to keep the homo out of their school. The text of that email is as follows:


Dear Parent and concerned citizen,

The Gay and Straight Alliance club at Manchester High School has announced that they will have speaker and author Greg Herren speak during third period on March 11. Mr Herren writes gay erotic fiction and gay and lesbian psychodrama. His books include Upon A Midnight Clear Queer Christmas Tales and Fratsex, and he has written for the Harvard Gay and Lesbian Review, the Washington Blade and Unzipped Monthly.

The memo that was sent out by the sponsor of the Gay and Straight Alliance at Manchester, a teacher named Mr. Eric Russell, says that Mr. Herren will have two 45 minute sessions in the library and that a luncheon will follow. He also says that the author will be available to sign copies of his books which will be available for purchase. Mr. Russell also says that members of the Gay and Straight Alliance will be with him all day.

Is this appropriate material for our children? Is this an appropriate way for school time to be used? Are students allowed to miss class all day for any other speakers? Who appproved this speaker? Who is picking up the tab for this event?

A student was suspended this year at Manchester for downloading pornography at school. If you view the enclosed attachment, you will wonder why that student was expelled when this author is welcomed.

If you believe that Mr. Herron's presence at Manchester High School is inappropriate, please let your voice be heard.


The more I thought about it, the angrier I got. The 'enclosed attachment' was actually a link to an author page about me on www.murderexpress.net, a website which covers mystery authors; and the author page (which I did not design myself or have anything to do with its design) had not been updated in two years; the bio listed for me was severely out of date. It does come up if you do a google search of my name, but so do any number of other ones--including ones that are more current. However, this particular site and bio included some of the porn anthologies I've contributed to over the years...while the others don't. Don't get me wrong, I am not disavowing my erotica writings nor my erotica anthologies that I have edited. Yet it was interesting to me that in their email, one of the books they mentioned was UPON A MIDNIGHT CLEAR, which is not an erotica anthology.

Julian Walker conducted an interview with me via email about this situation, and his article can be found at www.timesdispatch.com.

Despite the stupidity of the email circulated, and its inaccuracies, the thing that bothers me the most about this situation is that I was never given an opportunity by the school board or the superintendent (Billy Canaday) to express either my opinion, or was even asked what I was planning on talking about. I am a gay man, who sometimes writes/edits porn, and therefore I am 'inappropriate'. No, the event was simply canceled...and Mr. Canaday did not have the courage to stand behind his decision and contact me himself, which leads me to believe he doesn't really think he was doing the right thing in bowing to pressure from a group of 'concerned parents.'

What was further insulting to me was the insinuation that, as a gay man, I am either too stupid or too perverted to know what is appropriate or inappropriate to talk to high school students about.

I was invited to talk to this group because I am a published author with a small degree of success. What I was going to talk to them about was being true to yourself and following your dreams. I can certainly see why this would be considered incendiary and 'dangerous.'

I have also discovered that since this entire brouhaha began, Manchester High School allowed a preacher to come on to the campus to "pray" for the gay students, and 'drive the gay demons' out of them. Being gay, perhaps I am too perverted to fully understand this, but at the very least it seems like an egregious violation of the students' civil rights, not to mention a school-sponsored violation of the separation of church and state. As part of my tax dollars also go to pay for public education, despite the fact that I have no children, I personally would like a refund from the government. This is not how I want my tax dollars to be spent--but then, I'm just a gay man, and under the current administration in Washington, I have no rights.

As someone who went to high school in an extremely repressive school myself, my heart breaks for the kids at Manchester High, particularly those who have had the courage to be openly gay and join the Gay-Straight Alliance. The message being sent here by their school superintendent, and the 'concerned parents', is clear: gays are bad, gays are evil, and they must be stopped at all costs. How this will effect the students psychologically, I don't know...but if there are homophobic and gay-bashing students at this school, they've just been given a stamp of approval.

If the superintendent and the 'concerned parents' had read my work and then decided I was not an appropriate speaker, I would have gladly let the matter drop. If they read my work and decided I was a terrible author, well, painful as that would have been, I would have accepted it. But I am terribly resentful that the entire reason I was dropped was because a group of homophobic, Christian hoodlums decided, without reading anything I've ever written, based on a bio that is two years out of date and does not remotely even come close to covering everything I've written or written about, that I was a 'danger.'

And yet, somehow the right calls liberals 'elitist' and manage to do so with a straight face.

I am going to Richmond anyway, and am meeting with the GSA off-campus, at the MCC's worship space. I am going because the students are outraged, because the local media have covered this controversy fairly (apparently, I was all over the evening and late night news) and partly because the Times' Dispatch's online poll about it currently is running 60 for my appearance, 39 against, and 11 with no opinion. If I were to cancel the trip entirely, it would be sending the wrong message to those brave queer youth who have the courage I didn't have to be out and proud in their high school.

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On March 5th, 2005 02:42 am (UTC), [info]docbrite commented:
I've reproduced this in my journal. Appalling. So glad you're still going.
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On March 5th, 2005 03:45 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Thank you
Poppy, can't thank you enough. I still can't believe this is happening...and to me, of all people. Talk about ill-equipped to handle something of this magnitude....
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On March 5th, 2005 03:03 am (UTC), [info]deeply_seeing commented:
i don't want this to sound empty and condescending, but i really, really mean it from the deepest part of my heart: be glad and understand that you're fortunate to exist on the intelligent end of this moral tug o' war.

i understand that that statement does nothing to erase the foolish presumtions made by these "concerned parents" about your character, intelligence, and worth as a human being. nor, does it do anything to help the gay,bi,transgendered, and the straight students who are good enough to stand alongside their aformentioned peers. but hopefully it will do a little bit to reaffirm your stance on still going to virginia to do what you promised. even though the venue is different, you have not lost, and i am proud of you as a fellow human being for not backing down.

unfortunately, i can not show my support in person, due to geographical contraints, but i am behind you in spirit.

be strong.

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On March 5th, 2005 03:48 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Thanks
It doesn't sound empty and condescending, darlin'. And the reality is, as insulting and demeaning as it felt to be dismissed in such a slanderous and hateful way, in a way, it's kind of funny in that they think I have so much power! I mean, as horrible as it must have been, the very notion that a preacher could exorcise gay demons out of students and a building is so medieval that I have to ask, what next? Should I be dunked in the local pond to see if I am a witch?

If they only knew how unimportant I really am...

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On March 5th, 2005 03:08 am (UTC), [info]libco commented:
Came here via docbrite. Kudos to you for perservering. Might I friend you?
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On March 5th, 2005 03:49 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Of course!
Feel free to friend me.
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On March 5th, 2005 03:17 am (UTC), [info]sola commented:
Utterly shocking, but sadly, not suprising. I'm sorry that your fears were confirmed, but congratulations on still going. It is the right thing to do.

(and i'm reminded again how bastard fortunate i am to have grown up in this little queer-friendly pocket of the world. those are kids who need the Harvey Milk school.)

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On March 5th, 2005 03:49 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Thanks
If only we could have a Harvey Milk school everywhere....
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On March 5th, 2005 04:15 am (UTC), [info]polyester_queen commented:
As a gay high school student, I think it was insanely ignorant and uneducated of them to cancel your appearance, but I would still think that even if I weren't gay. Like [info]docbrite, who had a link to this entry on her LJ, I'm really glad you've decided to go to Richmond anyway.
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On March 5th, 2005 03:51 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Bravo to you
Thank you. I really didn't feel as though I had a choice. The message it would send by not going is something I don't know that I could live with.

And thank you for being brave enough to be a gay high school student. I didn't have that kind of courage when I was in high school, and I can't even begin to tell you how proud I am of you.

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On March 5th, 2005 07:19 pm (UTC), [info]polyester_queen replied:
Re: Bravo to you
Aww, thanks! I've still got one person left to tell--my dad--but I've been open and honest to everyone else since I got up the courage to come out. So I guess I'm still partially in the closet, but hopefully there'll be an appropriate time to tell him.
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On March 7th, 2005 08:37 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Re: Bravo to you
any step out of the closet at your age is an enormous act of courage. Bravo to you.
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On March 5th, 2005 04:45 am (UTC), [info]colubra commented:
That well-set-up young lady, [info]docbrite, pointed me at this info.

Here's to you for having the werewithal to stick to it as best as possible. I have the sneaking suspicion that students at the school are likely to ask mom and dad for permission to go on a field trip, assuming there's a teacher who'd be good with it.

A friend of mine who lives in Richmond proper pointed out that shit gets weird on the outskirts of town there- as he put it 'Richmond is a tiny island of blue surrounded by red- Manchester's in the purple'. He also pointed out that a debacle ensued in Richmond a while back. I'll share his telling of the tale with you.

This one African-American city councilman freaked the hell out because a portrait of Robert E. Lee was hanging in City Hall (right along with Martin Luther King, mind you). David Duke came to town and was, essentially, run out on a rail...Meanwhile, the /rest/ of the African-American community was like, "Er, why do we care about this? He was a decent man who fought to defend his family, freed his slaves, etc etc." So the portrait went back up, everybody gave everybody else a hug, and there're far fewer cries about racism from City Councilward.

Here's hoping your visit goes similarly.

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On March 5th, 2005 03:53 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Thanks
Great story. It will be interesting to see how it all turns out. I was kind of expecting a lot of hate email: "stay away from our kids you pervert" type stuff, but thus far I've gotten nothing but support. I go back and forth from "Damn the torpedoes" to "My God what if they shoot me?" but in any case, I'm going.
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On March 5th, 2005 04:53 am (UTC), [info]whingnut commented:
okay this is out of left field...

but did your friend Eric R. go to Ferrum College? If so, I was there at the same time @ 1992. What a weird, freakish and tiny world it would be to inadvertently catch up to an old schoolmate by reading Poppy Z. Brite's LJ.
Back to topic! I'm glad you're going to Richmond, and I think you're going to do some good there. EVERYBODY regardless of age/race/sexual orientation needs somebody to relate to, and especially ANYBODY interested in art or creative work of any kind. Kids with talent NEED to see somebody who's made it, either on a large or small scale just to have the nerve to try. Otherwise they'll believe it when people tell them "you can do that if you want to, but you'll starve".
Being a native Virginian and a Christian (United American Catholic Church...check us out! We're cool!) it makes me sad that this experience is going to put a bad taste in your mouth for my state.
While you're in town, please check out the Fan area of Richmond, Hollywood Cemetary, and Maymont Park. Hopefully some of the really attractive and distinctive parts of the city will win you over. :)
Good luck! And if your friend turns out to be the right Eric Russell, tell him Laurie Johnson says "hi!'.

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On March 5th, 2005 03:57 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Re: okay this is out of left field...
Laurie:

Thanks for the note and I'll check with Eric..

No, this won't leave a bad taste in my mouth for Virginia. There are cool liberals in Alabama, Mississippi, Arkansas...and you can't judge an entire state by the actions of a moronic few bigots. Actually, I've actually been rather impressed with how Virginians have risen in my defense--and the defense of the kids.

Perhaps the most insidious thing about this is that, once I got over my hurt and outrage, was the realization that this really wasn't personal--they are really going after the Gay-Straight Alliance, and are using this as an opportunity to get rid of it. We are always so quick to dismiss them as 'wingnuts', but they always have a master plan....one that's going to take them straight to hell, of course, but there's always a master plan behind everything they do.

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On March 5th, 2005 05:29 am (UTC), [info]thomasroche commented:
Good for you
For going anyway. There are people there who want to hear.

Strange time to ask it....but, Thomas Roche here. Mind if I "friend" you?

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On March 5th, 2005 03:59 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Re: Good for you
Now, this is irony. Whitney Friedlander emailed me yesterday to ask if I had your contact info, which I didn't...but I said I would check around and see if anyone I knew did. Shoot her an email!

Of course you can friend me. Whitney mentioned that she thought you were living in New Orleans now. Is that true?

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On March 5th, 2005 06:13 pm (UTC), [info]thomasroche replied:
Re: Good for you
Hah! Funny life I lead, isn't it? Actually, what happened is that I moved to NOLA toward the end of last year, but then ended up leaving my job and found another one in Orinda, which is near San Francisco. So....I'm actually back here in the SF Bay Area, having just gotten a house in Berkeley and started my new job. (You can read all about it on my blog). However, I still have all my stuff out in NOLA so I'm going back out there in a few weeks to pick everything up. So...I'm not sure where I live right now, to tell you the truth :-)

Whitney called me on my cell phone (which is still good) yesterday so all is cool.

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On March 5th, 2005 06:16 pm (UTC), [info]thomasroche replied:
Re: Good for you
By the way, I sent my new contact info to the Yahoo address on your LJ....is that the best one to reach you on?

Cheers,
Thomas

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On March 7th, 2005 08:38 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Re: Good for you
yeah that'll work. nice tomake your acquaintance at long last!
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On March 5th, 2005 05:49 am (UTC), [info]msminpdx commented:
Marshall here. I linked to this entry from my own blog and had some things to say on the subject. Kinda ran out of steam at the end, so it stops rather abruptly. Blame jet lag. I'm glad you're still going to Richmond. There's a lot to be said for standing your ground. Best of luck to you.
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On March 5th, 2005 04:00 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Sleepy in Seattle?
Hey McMarshall:

Thanks, read your blog. Isn't this weird? Never thought anything like this would ever happen to me. Lord. Who knew I would wind up notorious and on the wingnut hit list.

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On March 5th, 2005 10:48 am (UTC), [info]mercurygrrl commented:
Came to your journal through Poppy Z Brite, and would very much like to add you as a friend. I'm sorry for the ignorance in the US (which I haven'y noticed myself as I live in Norway), but we'll all have to hope that your visit to this state will help more people see that it's nothing wrong with being gay or in any way "different", and that people from all over the world will someday not fear what they do not know :)
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On March 5th, 2005 04:02 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Sure you can friend me. Isn't it amazing how the 'bastion of liberty that shines a beacon of light to the world' (or some such nonsense, it's difficult for me to quote the jackass in the White House accurately) is also the home of the ignorant and stupid?
On March 5th, 2005 05:33 pm (UTC), [info]mercurygrrl replied:
Yeah, it amazes me too :P
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On March 5th, 2005 02:25 pm (UTC), [info]stardustgirl commented:
I'm weighing-in as a not-gay person who thinks these boneheaded parents are stupid. Public school is going to expose your kids to something you may or may not agree with. That's part of public. Everybody plays. Too bad these parents didn't use the opportunity to say "I don't agree with this, but here is an opportunity in a school setting that will let you decide for yourself". Then again, maybe they are afraid their kids aren't as narrowminded as they are and will not carry on the great family tradition of prejudice.

I'm glad you're still going and that the students protested your cancellation. I think the school owes you equal time since they allowed the preacher to present an anti-gay view, though frankly I think they had no business mixing religion and school.

And yeah... another person surfing in via [info]docbrite

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On March 5th, 2005 04:08 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Public Education
I had a lot of problems with public education even before all of this blew up in my face...but this definitely is the perfect example.

I can understand why some parents would find my coming to the school troubling. And they could easily have forbidden their kids to attend. The school was not forcing anyone to go. So, what I don't understand is why certain parents concern themselves with what other people's kids are being taught or are experiencing. What gives them the right to decide for all kids? What makes them better parents than others?

Who do they think they are?

Thanks for your support, and for weighing in. It's nice to know that I am not alone in this.

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On March 6th, 2005 01:10 am (UTC), [info]cuntishness commented:
a message from a few miles away.
i applaud you for going to virginia, in spite of and maybe because of what has happened.
it is unfortunate that things like this happen all over the country. aids activists kept out of schools, the idea of options being equated to sin. that educating yourself and immersing yourself in pluralism is 'bad'.

i remember being out about my chosen sexuality in high school. how hard it was, how wonderful and liberating. and i can't imagine how reassuring it will be to those kids to have you show. i applaud them as well.

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On March 7th, 2005 08:41 pm (UTC), [info]scottynola replied:
Re: a message from a few miles away.
Well, the thing that gets me about all of this is this mentality that 'not letting your teens know about stuff you don't agree with' runs out at age 18...and then what do the concerned parents do?

I'm concerned about their parenting skills.

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On March 8th, 2005 11:12 pm (UTC), [info]studebakerhawk replied:
Re: a message from a few miles away.
Thats appauling, dude. We had a similar incident happen a few years back at my old high school but people were smart enough not to bow to pressure from a few conservative idiots and let the presentation take place... whats funny is in most cases the children of these 'concerned parents' were genuinely interested in going and just mentioned it in passing - they didn't go home and complain or anything. I linked to your article on my site, hope you don't mind.
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On March 18th, 2005 04:30 pm (UTC), [info]cuntishness replied:
Re: a message from a few miles away.
many parents hold onto their children long after the age of 18. they'll strangle until their children submit or break completely free.

parenting plans that revolve around creating a duplicate of ones self is just an act of mental masturbation. and is unfortunately quite often the sole purpose of children.

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