First of all, for my friends: MAKE SURE YOU LOG ON TO READ THIS STUFF. IF YOU DON'T LOG ON, YOU WON'T SEE MY ENTRIES.
That said...
I spent a while thinking last night. As some of you know, and some of you do not, a friend of a friend, who is a stranger to me, has been keeping track of my journal for some time. While this weirded me out a little bit, wondering why someone who didn't even know me would care, I let it go. I mean, what's the harm?
I have since discovered, however, that there is harm there. I do not fault her, however. This is an online medium, and anything that I don't want people reading should not be posted here. Further, anything I posted could have been posted friends-only, but wasn't.
The reason that I left my entries so openly viewable is because, first of all, I didn't think that anyone who decided to take a glimpse into my little world would use said glimpse as an opportunity to mock me in front of my peers, or to judge me, especially when they don't even know me. There was nothing I said that I cared about other people reading, but just like I would show my peers a certain degree of respect when responding to their personal thoughts and feelings, I expect that same respect in return. I don't mind someone disagreeing with me, and I don't mind an intelligent discussion, but I _do_ mind being judged, and I do mind being referred to in a demeaning fashion.
I know that this post will bring her no small amount of amusement. I don't really care, though. I was willing to give her a chance, knowing she was a friend of a friend. Given that she chose, as her first correspondence with me, to judge me, and then mock me for her friends' benefit, all the while being a hypocrite about the very judgement she was making of me, she is no longer welcome to share my thoughts, and to share in the thoughts of my friends. I am not taking lessons on feminism from someone who would refer to me as "So-and-so's ex", as if that's not demeaning as hell.
So it is, with that, that I say she may as well remove me from her friends list because she will find nothing more from me to read.
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calm
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