Relationships-of all kinds-are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, whith an open hand, the sand remains where is is. The minutre you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sane trickles through your fingers. You may hold on to some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely ot remain intact. But old too tightly, too possesssively, and the reation ship slips away and is lost.