[05 Oct 2008|10:28am] couturelaced so I've been thinking about this and I'm just wanting to know. What does sex feel like without a condom? For a girl. I know that guys obviously feel much better because my boyfriend told me sometimes the condoms hurt his penis. So does it feel better for a girl? and no I'm not going to have sex without a condom, I'm just really curious :) thanks! 58 comments   post comment

disappearing orgasms [04 Oct 2008|01:38pm] confused90 So, now that my boyfriend and I are no longer long distance, we can have sex more often (couple of times a week rather that once a month!) however I've run into a little problem. I usually get off from fingering no problem, so we'll have a bit of foreplay (manual and oral stimulation) and then have sex untill he comes. Then he'll finer me 'till I finish. However this week it took AGES for me to orgasm one time and it didn't happen at all another. I think my boyfriend gets bored/tired after a while aswell and I begin to lose interest. This sort of thing hasn't been a problem since I had my first orgasm. How can I make it easier? Or how can I keep it interesting post-sex for my boyfriend? thanks 8 comments   post comment

lingerie question [04 Oct 2008|03:26pm] mollylives I'm not sure if this is appropriate, but there were other questions on the same topic in the memories, so I'll give it a go :) The memories have been super helpful in terms of finding cute stuff online, and I found something I like on Fredericks.com, but I'm wondering about the packaging - how obviously "THIS IS SEXY UNDERWEAR" is it? I have to pick it up from a mailroom at college. I'm going to order it anyway, but I was just curious what to expect. Any experiences with other online stores are also helpful. Thanks! ETA: Thanks for all your help :) 15 comments   post comment

[04 Oct 2008|07:49pm] caketime I'm genuinely curious, and I'd like to get answers that come from every angle possible (what better place to do so?), so a question for the comm: Why is sex (edit: intercourse) important to you, and why do you engage in it? 52 comments   post comment

Positions for g-spot stimulation? [04 Oct 2008|02:03am] sapphires13 First post here, though I've been commenting for a while. I've never had a g-spot orgasm, though I've tried by myself a couple times, and while I can get it to feel sort of good, it's usually not much, and I give up fast. I'm gonna get a g-spot vibe soon, so hopefully that will change. That's not really the question here though. Sometimes during sex, I definitely can feel my g-spot being stimulated (it helps that the boyfriend's penis curves upward), but tonight I got close for the first time. We'd ended up in a new position. I was on top, but rather than just having my knees beside his middle, I brought my legs out straighter, on either side of his, with my feet closer to his (pretty much like this diagram) and while it wasn't the most comfortable position for my legs, I soon noticed that it was feeling quite good. It was pretty funny actually, my thought process went like this: "Oh, that feels good! Oh fuck, I have to pee! Wait a second...=O" because it took me a second to realize that the have-to-pee feeling was actually me getting close to my first g-spot orgasm, closer than I've ever been before. Unfortunately, I didn't make it all the way, because I ended up switching back to regular cowgirl too soon. I'm looking forward to trying it again next time, but I'd also like any tips for this particular position, or others for optimal g-spot stimulation. Thanks. 5 comments   post comment

Libido At Certain Times of the Day? [03 Oct 2008|10:05pm] aislingsdreamer Just wondering.... are there certain times of the day that your libido fluctuates and you find yourself wanting sex more than other times? For me I find I'm craving sex more in the morning than any other time of the day. Usually when I wake up too in the morning in a 'okay I'm up! Want sex now rawr!' type of way. I usually wake up before my boyfriend too so we've got a running joke about me being an alarm clock going on ;) My boy doesn't seem to mind at all lol. My boy on the other hand I can almost tell how horny he is by the clock ;) If he's at work around 10 or 11pm I'll start getting text messages and if we're together  that's when sexytimes happen the most for us also. Just wondering - it's been interesting lately tracking my libido and how it rises and falls throughout the day. 20 comments   post comment

the green eyed monster vs the one eyed monster :p [03 Oct 2008|09:37pm] lovethatlovage basically, i'm a crazy bitch that can A) think the idea of my boyfriend fucking another girl is so hot i masturbate to it...like.....a lot B) almost blackout with jealously when he even hints that he's slept with another girl, EVER. um, what? how do i reconcile these two thoughts? i have no idea and i'm generally pretty informed about my sexuality. 23 comments   post comment

[02 Oct 2008|11:16pm] herscientist Hi. I have just recently lost my virginity to my still boyfriend about 2 months ago. We generally have sex about every day or every other day. Recently, the sex has been heating up and getting better, as in I can feel it more and I can handle him better without slight pains. Lately he has been asking me to talk dirty to him. I'm comfortable with doing this, because I love and trust him very dearly, but I'm just uncomfortable about what to say. I mean, what do you say exactly? I need actual lines I should try, because really all I can think of while in the heat of the moment is "Oh.. I love it when I ride you" or "Do you like that?" or "MMm, I love your dick" you know, silly things like that. That's all I can really think of and I think those lines will get pretty old after a while. So what should I say? Also, how can I get him to have sex with me more than once in a day? He claims that he just can't get it up.. but there's been countless times where about an hour or so afterwards we'll be lying there and I do something to make him excited. I just want that crazy sex where you do the deed, lie there for 30 minutes, and then go at it again. Is there anything I can do to promote his stamina? 10 comments   post comment

Guy putting fingers in your mouth? [03 Oct 2008|07:00pm] brokenaisles I know, KNOW I've seen a post on this before and I searched all through the memories but couldn't find it. I wasn't paying attention to the replies because my partner before didn't do it then... but I started dating this guy about a month ago, and while he's getting me off and I'm terrible at handjobs, so he'll get himself off while I play with his balls, etc, he always sticks his fingers in my mouth. At first I was really suprised but now I just suck on them and lick them like I would if I was giving his fingers a blowjob, basically. I don't have a huge problem with it, but lately it seems like he's just sticking them in there all the time and keeps going deeper. Does it just remind him of getting head? I've given him head and a couple times I've gotten him to cum, but my handjobs are TERRIBLE, I have no rythym whatsoever, so if the fingers in my mouth help get him off, I'm not complaining. I'd just like some insights from those who have had it done to them or from the guys that enjoy it, I'd appreciate it please. 23 comments   post comment

Weird smell [03 Oct 2008|01:12am] solitudestarer mood- confused music- Jamiroquai-When You Gonna Learn? So I'm in the military and me and my girl are dealing with a long distance relationship. When I was back home, after some numerous amounts of foreplay we both found out that she is a squirter. However, when she does cum the smell is very very strong. I've gotten used to it but she finds it a bit disgusting. (She's a germaphobe and we have a LOT of phone sex). I first thought that maybe its actually pee but its a clear liquid. It just smells reallly really strong and it doesen't help that she cums multiple times as well. Could their be any reasoning for that? Any tips? Maybe a way to actually change her smell although I'm sure that's impossible. I just want to help her deal with it better. 61 comments   post comment

so embarrassed / sorry it's long [02 Oct 2008|08:05pm] audreyhepburn22 I feel so lame to be doing this, but I'm really quite embarrassed. I made a new journal so I could ask you guys questions, and I'm sure that only makes me look stupid and young but I like remaining completely anonymous when talking about these things. Let me just say, I am a member of this community (not really active - but a member) so I'm not here to 'troll' or anything like that at all. *Sigh* Okay, onto my questions. I'm 17 and lost my virginity (and he lost it to me) to my 18 year old boyfriend last April. The sex has been great for both of us. I started giving him oral before we had sex for the first time and in return, I guess, he would finger me. It was all great and fun. Now, it's been a while and I've been really wanting him to go down on me. He did it once, but it was for honestly, about 5 seconds. He told me it wasn't me (he had gone down on another girl long before we dated) and he just HATES everything about it. Taste, smell, texture, etc. I've always been pretty self-conscious of my vagina since I was around 13 and started seeing 'changes' down there. My labia got a little longer (nothing crazy long and gross) but enough that if I stand in front of a mirror, I can see it peek out a little. It's always made me uncomfortable and I talked to my mom about it and told her I had heard of labiaplasty, where essentially, a doctor cuts off the extra skin. I feel comfortable with my boyfriend, even with my 'lips' ... he has never said anything about it and said it's all good and perfect down there. But I fear that he's really just disgusted by them and that's why he won't go down on me. I'm not sure what to do. Should I go ahead and get this surgery? It's pricey, but it's something that would make me personally feel better. Should I talk to him and ask him if my 'lips' is why? I really don't want to go that route. Oh, and since all of this, I haven't given him head, either. Hoping that maybe he'd want it enough he'd go down on me. :[ 107 comments   post comment

vaginismus + treatment [01 Oct 2008|09:48am] caged_flames cross posted to vaginapagina So I am 95% sure I have vaginismus. I've been doing TONS of research and this is the only thing so far that makes sense. When I started reading about it on vaginismus.com I cried. finally someone acknowledging the reality of what I am going through. finally someone understanding that it isn't just in my head, it isn't a matter of lubrication or arousal. I have never been able to have sex without some level of pain (mine goes from a medium level of discomfort to a very high level of pain, depending on the day) but mine is not so severe that I cannot have sex at all. here's my question. do any of you have any experience using this kit: http://www.vaginismus.com/products/vaginismus_kit_dvd or have experience with using dilators or a similar kit to treat vaginismus? did it work for you? how well? if you bought something similar or the same thing, did you try to get your insurance to cover it? did they? My problem is taking a toll on my mental health and happiness, as well as my relationship with my patient and loving boyfriend of 3 years. Also, I have scheduled a doctor's appointment for tomorrow, in hopes that she will write me a prescription/recommendation for the kit so my insurance will help pay for it. Do you think the doctors would think it was weird/inappropriate to bring my boyfriend with me? Do you think it would it helpful if he was there? 8 comments   post comment

sex advice/worst sexual experience?! [02 Oct 2008|11:17am] ___prettymurder So i had sex with this guy who has been wanting to hook up with me for SUCH a long time..and it was the worst experience ever. ( click for FULL story ) Can anyone relate...AT ALL?!?! i just need advice/tips/ANYTHING thanks :-\ 37 comments   post comment

Strange sensations [02 Oct 2008|01:22pm] hoodwink mood- curious Last night my guy and I were having some amazing foreplay (not oral). The only issue is that it caused strange sensations in my mouth. My tongue tingled and actually tickled! It was very strange and sort of distracting. I know there are some parts of the body that can create arousal and nerves are all connected inside and everything. but.... Has this ever happened to anyone else? 12 comments   post comment

pain during sex. [03 Oct 2008|06:40am] deb4uchery I've checked the memories and found nothing. My SO and I have been sexually active for a few months now, whenever he enters me it feels as though i'm having sex again for the very first time, it hurts that damn much! We've pretty much come to the conclusion that my fourchette gets in the way and is being pressed against causing the pain. Mine is fairly large compared to what google-fu shows me. We've tried using more lube, different positions, waiting longer so I am more aroused...nothing seems to work. There are certain instances where I cannot feel it at all, but of course with all the constant moving around at some point or another I get a feeling of immense pain coming from it. This does not happen when I use my vibrator and has not happened with past partners. My current SO is average length but very thick. I think his thickness might be tearing it a little each time, if not it certainly stretches it and (feels) as though it's being pushed into my vagina. Does anyone else get this?  I vaguely remember reading somewhere that it can be cut during giving child birth to prevent tearing (...or not?) if that's true has anyone has this done? I'm really at a loss as to what I should do here. TIA. 17 comments   post comment

[02 Oct 2008|04:49pm] gggermany my boyfriend has a scruffy face pre-beard sort of thing going on, and i've noticed that in the past few weeks, i've been getting increasingly worse acne on my chin.... presumably from his beard irritating the crap out of my skin. i've had bad skin before, and am on two different topical meds daily that my dermatologist prescribed me, to combat acne. i'm also on yaz birth control pills, which has also really helped to keep my skin completely clear and nice, until recently. beard + kissing = my skin getting worse? does anyone have any ideas as to how i can help or prevent this? aside from my skin breaking out, we have AMAZING sex :) 10 comments   post comment

Picture Help [02 Oct 2008|05:43pm] socksandaphone mood- excited music- sunspots, NIN A little background information: I've had sex maybe twice in the last three to five months. I don't even remember. This is my fault. I have an eating disorder and for the past couple of months have thought my body is the ugliest thing in the entire world and wouldn't really even let my boyfriend touch me. Through this he has been so awesome. He's stood by me and be there for me no matter what. Of course he is sex frustrated beyond belief, but he says he understands and would not force me into anything I didn't want, and would wait, because the most important thing is getting better. :) Okay so now the problem, I've recently entered a recovery program and am feeling a lot better about my life, my body and well, everything really. He is making a two hour drive to see me next weekend and I would love to do something special for the poor, sex deprived boy (but hey, I missed sex too! lol) So I was thinking of sending him a little teasing picture each day of the week, maybe attach a sexy song or even a video just to get him all geared up - text him some scandalous things when he's at work or at school or with his buddies. Before I am going to tell him I'm going to give him a surprise next week and that I really want to, so he's not uncomfortable and thinking I'm forcing myself to do this or anything. I'm going to buy some hot lingerie so that I feel sexy and confident :) But what kind of pictures should I send? I'm thinking more sensual pictures, not like "o hai this is me sucking on my finger lol". I'm actually really stuck on this one. Thanks guys :)   28 comments   post comment

[30 Sep 2008|10:18am] eatingjello my boyfriend and i tried to have sex last night for the first time (my first time overall, but not his) but we couldn't get it in all the way :( it was very painful but the pain was manageable until it just felt like he hit a wall -- i'm assuming my hymen -- and then i had to make him stop. i don't understand! is he just supposed to push through it? it hurt so bad when he got close and this morning when i woke up i was bleeding. it's definitely not period blood; it's the wrong time of the month and a different consistency. i've heard that your gynecologist can break your hymen for you; would it be totally weird if i made an appointment with him just to tell him to get rid of it? i'm so frustrated. all i want to do is have sex with my boyfriend and i feel like it shouldn't be this complicated. 29 comments   post comment

Curious. [30 Sep 2008|01:51pm] cellar_closet This is just for my own curiosity, something I've been thinking about. Sometimes when people hear things like "extremely high sex drive" they automatically think 'sex addict'. Not all people of course, but the two seemed to be linked a lot of the time. Now, in some people's opinions, there seems to be a fine line between having an extremely high sex drive, and being an actual sex addict. I'm wondering what everyone's opinion is on this: What's your definition of both? What makes them different? I'm pretty ignorant on sex addicts, so I'm not too sure what it means to be one. I DO however have an extremely high sex drive. Does the effect sex has on other aspects of your life contribute to whether or not you're an addict? Thanks in advance for any thoughts! 52 comments   post comment

[29 Sep 2008|10:24pm] with_a_ghost So my guy and I have been together for about three months, though kind of in a LDR type thing because we go to school far away from each other. Anyway, we have amazing sexual chemistry. Absolutely mindblowing sex, that I still fantasize about months later. We started out using condoms, but switched to no condoms. (I'm on birth control.) I have let him cum inside of me a few times. I know this isn't really a good habit to get into, but every time afterwards I would get nervous about getting pregnant and take 2 bc pills, which I've been told is like the same thing as the morning after pill. I'm on the bc patch (Ortho Evra) and occasionally corners of it will fold or it will get wrinkles. It makes me nervous that the patch is not totally effective, so I take the bc pills after. I would be totally comfortable with him cumming inside of me if I knew for sure that the patch was completely effective. He doesn't pressure me or anything, he'll do whatever I'm comfortable with. I would feel more safe using condoms except that the times we've tried to go back to them, it's uncomfortable for both of us and really doesn't produce any pleasure. So my question is, is there any alternative? Occasionally instead of cumming inside of me I'll go down on him and finish him off, but that usually isn't as pleasurable for him as cumming inside of me would be, and it's tiring for me. Any help would be appreciated. 31 comments   post comment

Seduction [29 Sep 2008|08:05pm] aujourlejour Tomorrow, I'm going to lunch with a guy I met last week. He invited me and even though it's casual, I think he's interested in me. My question is, frankly... how do I seduce him? How do I come across as charming and sophisticated while at the same time being sexy? I'm a 19-year-old girl, and I'm well aware that I should know these things by now, but I was in a two-year relationship until six months ago. Since then, I haven't dated at all. Needless to say, I've been off the market for too long and haven't had to attract someone since high school. 17 comments   post comment

toy cleaner [28 Sep 2008|08:10pm] jellooo_girl ok so i just got my very first toy (an OhMyBod if it makes a difference)...so i know you can clean them with toy cleaner or mild soap and water as long as you dont get the electronic parts all wet, but i was trying to figure out another alternative. would baby wipes work? any other more convenient suggestions? thanks. 18 comments   post comment

... [28 Sep 2008|11:20pm] sextipslj I've been seeing someone I find to be the most amazing guy ever & after dating for a good 3 weeks, I dont think I can hold back any longer The sexual tension is high, and Im all too near jumping him The problem being, that I am a virgin,and I know he isnt Given our age difference(Im 18,hes 25) I guess it isnt abnormal, but I think hes just been under the impression that Im plenty experienced, so my question is, when the time finally comes and he realizes that he has 7 years of sex over me, generally speaking, will he think it a big turn off,or? The fact that we are so "far apart" in age has always come up with him, but being the person I am, Ive always insisted it meant nothing if we were mentally on the same level. Now,with something like this, Im not sure what he'll make of it Thoughts,help,comments,anything is much appreciated I just wanna know how guys generally feel with this situation 15 comments   post comment

Question about libido issues, i suppose? [29 Sep 2008|10:58am] ilost_themoon Hi there, My boyfriend and i have known eachother for 5 years, been dating for 8 months. He is my best friend & I'm incredibly happy - BUT He just started school about 3 weeks ago, and our sex life has significantly decreased. I realize that it's normal considering he's exhausted by the end of the day, and he has his mind on other things, But I'm the type that wants to have sex no matter what the circumstance. Only if i'm feeling sick or something do I not want to make love to him....Being tired has never stopped the urge...So I'm having a hard time understanding his disinterest. Recently I feel like I have to initiate things, only to have him tell me he's too tired...and it hurts my feelings. No matter how many times he tells me it isn't because he isn't as attracted to me anymore, I still feel very insecure and ugly. It's starting to affect my self esteem and that sucks. So...Any advice? What can/should I do? Am I making too much out of this? Do you think it's something that will blow over? Thanks in advance... 14 comments   post comment

Girl on top: Squat or on your knees [29 Sep 2008|10:27pm] laddadida Girls, when you are on top, what do you prefer: squatting or being on your knees? 54 comments   post comment

Instant Yeast Infection? [29 Sep 2008|01:05am] chitownbound So, I recently bought this: http://www.deepmemories.com/Impulse-Jack-Rabbit_p_38.html?gclid=CPiNysKrgpYCFQIyxwodZlG1EQ in hopes that it would help me loosen up a bit [ha, literally] and have a g-spot orgasm as well. I think I got pretty close to one tonight, but I still need to work on it. So far, it's been pretty amazing, and I highly suggest it. Anyways, I've had many sexual partners but have only had sex with three, and every time, it was problematic. Basically, it always hurt, no matter how relaxed I was, and how much foreplay/lube was used. I'm still not sure why this is happening, but I wanted to know if this has happened to any of you, and if so, how do you deal/get over it? Also, I have noticed that pretty much RIGHT after sex [meaning, as soon as the dick is out of me] I start to have really bad discharge, and it's almost like an INSTANT yeast infection. Same consistency and everything. But only when I have sex, not through fingering or oral or anything. Is that possible to get an infection that quick? Does this happen to anyone else? Any ideas of what's up? Thanks for the advice! 10 comments   post comment

Lube Burn [29 Sep 2008|12:04pm] niveswhitt mood- confused Hello everyone. I've been through the memories here, and I can't seem to find anything that fully answers my question, so it might be best for me to just ask here. I am a guy who has had his cherry popped earlier this year, and through practicing with a toy and a few other instances has come to enjoy being on the receiving end of anal sex. However, there is one problem I have been having that I cannot seem to find a straight answer for, no matter where I look; so now I am hoping that someone or somebodies can help me out. This is, of course about lubrication and the burning sensation from them I get. The first time lube had even been used on me was my first experience in general. It of course was not a pleasant experience for me due to the burning and unusual sensation, but in hindsight I really believe that the burning was 95% caused by the lube he used. I cannot give a specific name other than that is was most likely KY. A couple months before I bought myself a toy, I came across a little bottle of KY lube, and tried using that, which ended up burning rather badly for me. When I got the toy, a friend of mine let me borrow a bottle of strawberry flavored lube (again, I don't know the name) that she said should not burn as badly. It in fact was not as bad as the KY, but it still had a mild sting/burn that went with it. Fast-forward to just recently, and I've received a couple more times, but this time without lube. I was rather surprised that not using lube actually didn't sting in the least bit, but from what I am reading in the Memories here, it is not a good practice. All that said, I have a few questions that I could really use some expertise on. First, I'm wondering why all I've used but pre and saliva have burned, and second what lubes are there that I can use for anal sex that will not burn at all? I've spent the last 2 hours searching the internet, and have come up with no solid answers, only little clues and hints, Can anyone here give me some straight information please? ~Nives Edit: I am no doubt taking what is said into consideration, though I might want to point one thing out. I do not believe that tearing is the only reason for the burn, as that even with something as small as my finger, for instance, with lubrications, will still burn me. If I am wrong I would not be opposed to being corrected, but I do not believe that something that thin could tear me and allow the lube to burn in that sense. 24 comments   post comment

[29 Sep 2008|04:10pm] eatingjello this is sort of more a relationship issue than a sex issue, but this community seems to get a lot of varied, valuable activity, so i thought i'd ask the question here to see what people thought. how long did/do you wait to have sex with someone when you're in a committed relationship? i've been with this boy for only a couple weeks, and it looks like we're in it for the long run right now (i'm only 21, so, you know, "long run" means like a year +, not marriage or anything) and the sex question has already come up. i get the feeling that in his past relationships they were physically intimate by now, which seems rather early to me. one of my friends told me that when she was going through the same thing with her boyfriend (of several months) she asked her other friends when they started having sex and found the average was around five months after their relationships had started. and THAT seems kind of late to me. p.s. i'm a virgin by the way, so sex is kind of a big deal to me even though i feel like i'm old enough that it shouldn't be :/ i've been in one committed relationship before this one and we never had sex . . . in retrospect, i wish we had, but i was just never ready. 52 comments   post comment

Sleep sex? [28 Sep 2008|01:02pm] ophelia356 So, I woke up in the middle of the night last night to find my boyfriend attempting to get it on with me in his sleep. This is the first time he's ever done it, and when I talked with him about it this morning he says he doesn't remember a thing. However, he says he did have a dream about sex last night. I believe him, as he was a sleepwalker when he was younger and has been known to take showers in this sleep. (Various members of his family sleepwalk, while no one in my family does.) My question is what to do if it happens again. He is absolutely mortified and suggested I slap him to wake him up and make him stop, but I've always heard you should just guide sleepwalkers back to bed and put them back to sleep. Has anyone else delt with this problem before? I tried researching it but all I found were a bunch of court cases where men were let off of statutatory rape charges because they proved they had this condition. What kind of doctor treats sleep sex? (And just in case anyone asks, his attempts at getting it on were unsuccessful and he basically ended up humping my ass. I don't mind being woken up by it, but I don't want this to progress to sleep showering, sleep cooking, sleep driving, or anything that could be potentially dangerous.) x posted to vaginapagina 48 comments   post comment

head help [25 Sep 2008|09:06pm] tulips_rbetter Im looking for tips, maybe different positions, on how to go deeper when giving oral, i seem to have a bit of a gag reflex issue, but im working on getting better and have noticed that some positions are easier. any ideas would be appreciated 15 comments   post comment

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