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July 23rd, 2008
quitelife00
 | 12:02 am - "Young, Gay and Murdered" (infuriating article about Lawrence King)
http://www.newsweek.com/id/147790>1=43002
WHAT THE FUCK, NEWSWEEK??
( Cut for quotes from article plus LOTS OF SWEARING AND INCOHERENCY...that starts off coherently and then spirals into ABSOLUTE RAGE. )
Facepalm. Headdesk. x_x
Current Mood: ![[mood icon]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/mood/classic/angry.gif) WHAT THE FUCK
Current Music: Bartók: which I only listen to when I feel OMGWTF
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July 22nd, 2008
ihasstopwatch
 | 04:51 pm
To the two people who came out of the SFFD truck just to ask us a couple of questions,
Where the fuck are you from? Seriously. You asked me, Dani, and my roommate who we were waiting outside the club to see that evening. We told you the names of all four bands: The White Tie Affair, Innerpartysystem, Medic Droid, and Kill Hannah. The former three you had no problem with, but apparently, Kill Hannah is just too strange for your little minds to wrap around. And not just because of the name. Oh no.
I showed you two pictures of the band. This one, which was a poster that the band's street team had hung up in several spots around the club, and this one (something from a photo shoot that didn't include their mohawk-sporting drummer). You took one look at the pictures and said, "What are they, some kind of gay death metal band?"
I'm sorry, but when does the way a band looks have any real influence on the kind of people they're attracted to? Yes, one member of Kill Hannah is bisexual, but that's not the point. Glitter, eye makeup, and great fashion sense do not automatically mean that they're "all a bunch of homos", as one of you put it. If you don't like the fact that makeup can be worn by anyone without affecting their sexuality, then you might want to think about getting transferred.
By the way, it was funny as hell when your faces did something along the lines of - o_o O_O O_o o_O - when we were trying to explain that glam rock (the band's real genre) does not equal homosexuality.
Current Mood: ![[mood icon]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/mood/classic/smile.gif) amused/annoyed
Current Music: Kill Hannah - The Chase | Scrobbled by Last.fm
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July 20th, 2008
July 18th, 2008
bizzlefout
 | 03:27 pm
so, my mother is getting married today. second marriage, in a catholic church [and the whole process of her annulling her 16-year marriage to my father so she could do this is a whole different kind of rage], and i am not looking forward to being there.
this is part of the entry i just posted in my regular journal, but it seemed to fit here as well.
last night, in the midst of the bahama-breeze-rehearsal-dinner-from-hell, we all got presents. there's five of us kids, three girls and two boys. paul's daughters are pretty girly and his oldest has the whole bleached-hair-tanning-bed look, but they're nice.
so they gave us identical gifts.
the boys got this pretty sweet silver band that's exactly like some of the wrist accessories that i like to wear.
the girls [including me] got a frou-frou charm bracelet with ReAl SwArOvSkY cRyStAlS on it. and my mom even admitted, "i know it isn't really your style..."
so...
dear mom,
appreciate the gesture, but did you really have to conform to the gender binary so strictly that you got me something that was honestly awkward to open because i have NEVER leaked enough estrogen in my LIFE combined to know what the fucking hell swarovsky crystals actually WERE. so because i have the vagina, even if i've never really been a girlish thing my entire life, i get the girl gift?
it's bad enough that my mom's new "family" consists of two cis-gendered boys, two cis-gendered girls, and jessi, the genderqueer dyke freak, but don't pigeon-hole me.
no love,
jessi
ps- even though you just called me, two hours before your wedding, to tell me that my lip ring was not allowed in the church, it will still be worn. i mean, unless you're willing to ban earrings as well. i don't care if "society says that a piercing is okay if its on a woman's earlobe".
and no, i am not going to wear a sweater over my dress in 95 degree heat because my back tattoo would be poking out. you fought so hard to have your wedding in a catholic church, so far to say that my family never actually happened, that i think you can suck it up and live with your choice.
and no, i'm not going to bless myself with the holy water when we walk in the door, because i'm scared of the third-degree burns to my fingers. HISSSSSSSSSS.
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July 9th, 2008
brokenmotorist
 | 05:08 pm - more of an irking than a rage...
dear fd.net users,
granted, a good portion of writers on fd.net aren't exactly the brightest lot on account of they're generally about fifteen years old and writing mary-sue fics about themselves and *insert popular band here* but your logic astounds me!
when you're posting slashfic and then write as your summary "this is so gay i don't know why i'm posting this", et cetera...
....uh...
...what?
i would like to believe it's just too fabulously queer for mortal eyes but somehow i doubt it.
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July 2nd, 2008
lovejacq
 | 11:13 pm
i hate people who look at me
- wondering i'm a girl or boy
- or being annoyed that i'm a butch
Current Mood: infuriated
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June 24th, 2008
brokenmotorist
 | 09:07 pm
dear a,
no, hansel from the birmingham royal ballet production of hansel and gretel is not a lesbian because ze (i am actually unaware of the gender of the dancer playing hansel) is wearing overalls (as in, you know, lederhosen).
i know work was boring today but you're not funny.
not much love,
me.
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June 15th, 2008
razothredfire
 | 07:01 pm - Two Words: Bridal. Shower.
I cannot even express how uncomfortable this evening made me. Besides all the pictures that decorated everything at the place the party was hosted at that enforced heteronormativity, there were a number of things wrong at this event.
I barely know this cousin, yet I *have* to come because I happen to have female genitals? I have always been genderqueer, and I stuck out like a red, throbbing, *bleeding* thumb among everyone else there. I was dressed pretty much the exact opposite of everyone there, given that everyone else in the family seems to dress according to society's gender role standards and I, the person who tends to only buy clothing in the "men's" sections of stores, was dressed the exact opposite. I don't sit delicately. For all intents and purposes, if the event was designed to only include "feminine-type" people and exclude all "male-type" people, I should have been excluded. Oh, but right. There's the genitals factor. My mistake.
The "partygame" we played? It made me feel like a moron. You purported it to be a test on "how well you know the bride", but only 2 questions had any real relevance to knowing important things about her as a person. The rest of the questions had to do with how well you memorized everything she was *wearing* when you first walked in the door. Yes, because the validity and quality of your relationship with a person has a direct correlation to how well you memorize what they wear, not the facts that are important and relevant to their life. Like the name of the groom and where he grew up, maybe?
Telling my 3-year-old great-cousin that he isn't allowed to be at the party, can't eat any of the treats, and has to leave "because you're a boy, sweetie"... is not ok. He's three, he doesn't understand why you would want to exclude him, and it deeply upset him. Again, with the exclusion-based-on-genitals thing. -.-** I had to tell him that, if he wanted, he could have his own all-boy party sometime, just to make him stop getting all teary-eyed.
I am totally not happy at how miserable and awkward the whole event made me feel. Double-fail to the hostess for arranging for all the excluded males to go to a car-and-truck show. Because, y'know, all males like cars and trucks. I will admit that at least you DID arrange some option for them to do instead of just kicking them out to fend for themselves the whole night.
Current Mood: bitchy
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brokenmotorist
 | 08:25 pm
dear girl i occasionally work with,
you're a nice girl i suppose, and you were a little tipsy, and granted my explanation wasn't the best but:
1. genderqueer != bisexual
2. genderqueer = real
3. genderqueer = most certainly not something i am making up to confuse you.
sincerely,
me.
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June 13th, 2008
mistergirlgerms
 | 09:50 pm - grr.
So, I'm sitting in the kitchen, playing guitar/singing and minding my own beeswax, when these people from the party next store walk by. One of them stops at the window, gawks, and goes "Wait, that's really a GIRL?!" and the other laughs and goes "SHUSH, IT CAN HEAR YOU!"
and then somebody else shouts "WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU?!" and they ran away.
I can't even wrap my mind around how incredibley rude people are. WHAT ASSHOLES! Like it's any of their fucking business anyway. And I can't even put into words how incredibley pissed I feel right now.
What's more- I hate that on the rare occasion that I pass my very female voice gives me away. Guh. I want to kick things.
Current Mood: annoyed
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June 10th, 2008
fruit_ing
 | 06:34 pm
To the MC at the Pride aftershow-
Thanks for introducing us as an "all-girl-band", and when I correct you, thanks for saying "whatever, girl", and thanks for just giving up and calling me "that" when you realized this was too much for your small little mind to handle.
Also, thanks to the organizers for moving us from the front of the program to the end, so we could wait until all of the IMPORTANT acts (drag queens, vapid gay pop musicians) were done. Not that I don't love drag queens, but we were really the only ones there with any kind of message of gay rights, and you showed everyone that social consciousness comes second to skimpy clothes and songs about sex.
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druidspell
 | 07:09 pm
Alright, so my sister is taking a Sociology of Families course this summer so that she can get her degree. The textbook has been updated to include lots of modern issues that affect today's families.
One of the questions asks: "Why do gays and lesbians want to get married?"
...
BECAUSE FUCK YOU, WE'RE PEOPLE TOO!
Dear Sociology textbook:
Gays and lesbians (and others not fitting into your binary) want to get married so that the world will recognize their love and commitment to each other. Love, commitment, and a desire/ability to raise a family are NOT heterosexually exclusive.
I hope she burns you at the end of the summer session,
Laura
Edited to add, and possibly clarify rage: The rage comes from the facts that
1) the question needs to be asked in the first place, either to make people think about the way that non-hetero people are really a lot like people, in regards to wanting their relationships and commitments to be seen as being as worthy and deserving of respect and recognition as much as those of hetero people,
and
2) the way that the textbook repeatedly asks this question as if it's the new question for the ages, as if the idea of GLBTQ marriage is so incomprehensible and mysterious that entire fields of study need to be dedicated to the Mating and Partnering of the Homo-, Bi-, Pan-, Trans-, and Other-Sexual people.
Because for every textbook that asks this as a question intended to make people think "Hey, they want to get married for the same reasons I want to get married!", there are hundreds of assholes out there who just.don't.get it. and ask that question in all seriousness. And when they read the textbook which, on the surface, is asking the same question for what they presume are the same reasons, it justifies their arguments that we DON'T need the legal and societal protections that marriage provides, that we should be satisfied that we're allowed to be with the one we love at all.
Also, to note: I am not sad at this issue. I am angry.
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May 19th, 2008
rakshanda
 | 05:34 pm - Oh no you didn't
Dear J.R.
You said you were OK with gay people. You said it was fine if they propositioned you, as long as they backed off when you said "no".
You went too far when you joked about stabbing someone who persisted in making passes at you.
I liked you until now.
Current Mood: pissed off
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May 14th, 2008
aslanscountry
 | 06:53 pm - SHUT THE FUCK UP OCON
People keep posting on my college's anonymous website asking what it means to be trans. "How can you know you're a different gender? Isn't that like knowing you have blue eyes when you really have brown eyes? Don't answer by talking about feelings, I want a logical explanation." SHUT THE FUCK UP. There have been like a million of these posts in the past few months. And usually when you try to explain to the person what it means to be trans they just tell you whatever you said wasn't a real answer.
Or maybe there have been posts like this all year and I just didn't notice because I didn't have a friend who was trans until this term. I hope not. I feel really bad because my friend is as addicted to Oberlin Confessional as I am and I'm pretty sure he's posted on a lot of the threads. It must be pretty infuriating.
A problem with going to a super liberal hippie college is that people try to prove their individuality by making a big deal out of not doing things that they perceive as hippie/liberal/politically correct. But they're not really proving their individuality when there's a post like this almost every day.
OH GOOD JOB! YOU JUST ACTED REALLY DISRESPECTFUL TO A GROUP OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE A HARD ENOUGH TIME AS IT IS! ALL THE GIRLS WILL WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU NOW!! CAN'T YOU JUST FEEL YOUR PENIS DOUBLING IN SIZE?
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May 12th, 2008
1_2_suckerpunch
 | 10:24 pm
Hey student council? You're STOOOOOOOOOOPID. Your heterosexist "Mister Irresistible" Day for Spirit Week makes me want to vomit.
The premise? The girl-shaped seniors are given ribbons at the beginning of the school day, and they are instructed not to speak to any boy-shaped seniors. If a boy-shaped senior gets a girl-shaped one to talk to him, he gets her ribbon. At the end of the day the ribbons are counted, and someone is crowned Mister Irresistible.
WTF.
WTF.
It makes me want to punch a kitten. And I fucking LOVE kittens.
(But instead of injuring baby animals, I'm going to see if I can get my female friends to give ME their ribbons. Let's fuck with the system, shall we?)
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January 3rd, 2006
drakyn
 | 04:19 am - I can has hypocritical referances to Owellian doublethink**?
So, I was going to write a rant or something about a couple of anti-trans* posts I read.
I decided not to as both posts are utter crap, but then I decided to anyway.
One's about how logical this cis*woman is and how us trans*folk are so illogical, we expect our feelings to be catered to, how our "irrational or magical thinking is the sign of an ignorant person," and how she's condescending to us because "that’s what always happens when adults speak to retards."
Oooo, nice ablism thrown in as a delicious cherry on top!
The other one was that same old !transgender reifies gender and/or gender roles! !Just be a feminine man or a masculine woman! BS.
And the comments are way worse.
There was crap about how all trans*women just luurve porn and hentai and how this "proves" that they just fetishize being women and/or degraded like a woman.
How sexist men luurve to go to trans*women prostitutes and trans*women luurve it because they are degraded and together "Sexist men look out for each other and will cooperate to control women’s bodies in any novel way they can think of."
Oh yeah, apparently folks who experience transsexuality as I do, being "inordinately focused on 'the parts'", simply have OCD. An OCD that only manifests as wanting to have different genitals and/or secondary sexual characteristics.
Umm, I trust that trans*folks who also have OCD can tell the difference and would speak out if there was none. Just like how trans*POC would speak out if there were any similarities between being trans* and black/whiteface.
I love how knowing one trans*person, or going to a couple of meetings where there were a few trans*women present, makes you an expert on trans*folks and you therefore have a lot of experience with trans*folk.
And how it's our bad if we decide not to answer your inane and/or bigoted 'questions' (interrogations) and therefore you can go around saying trans*folk will never answer your innocent questions.
**Doublethink is an Orwellian word; doublespeak is not.
x-posted to tranny rage and my blog.
Current Mood: ![[mood icon]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/mood/classic/sad.gif) pessimistic
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April 30th, 2008
aslanscountry
 | 01:06 pm - this is a big incoherent rant
I think that this might come off as offensive so here is a disclaimer, and I am happy to change anything else that comes off as offensive if I am asked to:
For the sake of clarity, in this post I am not using the word queer the way I often use it, and the way it is used in the name of this community (people who are not heterosexual/cisgendered), but the way I feel it is used by people at my college. I think at my college people use the word queer to describe a certain kind of lifestyle and politics, and it really bothers me because I think those people think they speak for all glbt people (and are thought by many straight people to speak for all glbt people) when that isn't true at all. I started writing this because I am really mad on behalf of someone I know who is trans but not at all queer in the way I'm using the word queer in this post, but it's sort of about glbt issues at my college in general.
Anyway, I'm concerned that this post will come off as blaming glbt people for oppression, or something, and that isn't my intent, so please tell me if there's anything I should change.
( rar rar rar )
( in response to mod note )
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April 29th, 2008
dreadedcandiru
| 10:49 pm
Dear heterosexual music fans,
When someone asks "is [insert artist] gay?", you do not need to reply with "OMG WHY THE HELL DO YOU CARE WHO S/HE SLEEPS WITH?!? IT'S THE MUSIC THAT MATTERS!!!1!1!!1" to prove how un-homophobic you are. A simple "yes", "no", or "I don't know" would suffice. Provided that the question isn't phrased in a way that would imply that homosexuality is a negative thing, they're probably just being curious. Unless you're also going to freak out when people ask "Is she married?" and other questions unrelated to the music, don't pull the "I DOESN'T MATTERRRRR!1" card when ever someone dares to mention Teh Ghey. Oh, and saying "I don't care if he's straight, or if he's gay, or if he likes to fuck horses"? FAIL.
Likewise, don't try to pretend that your joy over queer artists staying in the lyrical closet isn't homophobic by praising them for their "gender-neutral lyrics that everyone can relate to", and don't throw a fit when they actually write a gender-specific love song because they "spoiled the ambiguity." Straight artists "spoil the ambiguity" all the fucking time, in case you haven't noticed. Trying to pass your blatant heterosexism off as being progressive and in the spirit of equality? DOUBLE FAIL.
Please refrain from whining about how all the meeeeean heterophobic homosupremecists are trying to steal your favorite singer just because they actually acknowledge that he's queer. Whenever a gay/bi person mentions the queer subtext (or maintext, in some cases) in a song or mentions how much they relate to the lyrics, they're not saying that you can't enjoy them as well, and they're not trying to insult you. No, seriously. Straight-washing something does not make it better because it's "relevant" to more people, being generic as possible makes it less meaningful, you heterosexist jackass. WRITING ENTIRE ESSAYS DEVOTED TO DEGAYING THE QUEER ASPECTS OF AN ARTIST'S WORK WHILE OVERSTATING EVEN THE SLIGHTEST HETEROSEXUAL REFERENCE (INCLUDING A FEW THAT YOU PULLED OUT OF YOUR ASS) AS AN EXAMPLE OF "BLATANT HETEROEROTICISM" WHILE HAVING THE CHUTZPAH TO CRITICIZE QUEER FANS FOR LETTING THEIR SEXUALITY EFFECT THEIR INTERPRETATIONS? EPIC FAIL.
PS: Do not attempt to excuse your homophobic remarks by saying "some of my favorite singers are gay." Listening to Queen and Elton John does not make you any less of bigoted asshat. kthnxfuckoff.
Current Mood: ![[mood icon]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/mood/classic/blah.gif) listless
Current Music: Morrissey - "Swallow On My Neck"
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April 26th, 2008
aetitus
 | 12:30 pm
So my friends were over last night, and somehow homosexual-themed conversation always comes up. Not that I mind, but it comes up in that... ur doin it wrong way. They were just being typically ignorant cisgender heterosexuals - without realizing it, I guess. (Of course there are cool cisgender heteros that actually understand these types of issues; and not just surface-understanding.)
Rage out.
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April 24th, 2008
selina_
 | 06:49 pm - Transphobia on Graham Norton
I was watching Graham Norton (an openly gay, English comedian known for being shocking and full of innuendo) on the BBC recently, and he made comments about Thomas Beatie. I generally considered the show to be LGBT friendly, so was shocked to hear him say not only: "If he hasn't had genital surgery surely that just makes him a lesbian" but even worse, "that thing is still a woman". You can watch the clip here.
I sent a complaint to the BBC Complaints Department, and the reply I received was even worse. This is a link to my journal entry showing my original complaint, and the godawful reply from the BBC.
I thought I should bring this to more people's attention. My beef here is about transphobia in general, not Beatie's specific case - which is admittedly a little unusual. Comments like, "We believe that there is no single set of standards in this area on which the whole of society can agree" from the BBC are at best not taking the issue seriously, and at worst plain offensive.
If you want to register your own complaint - here is the BBC Complaints Website.
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