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Sunday, July 20th, 2008
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4:58 pm - Obama Pride - Video Collage
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| Thursday, July 17th, 2008
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6:16 am - Venting
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lilibelle3
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So my #1 gay and I were supposed to go to dinner Fri with some friends. Turns out no one else can come, so I ask him "do you still want to go?" "yeah" he replies. Next day he emails me something like "dont take this personally,but I dont want to go out Fri". So I reply "Well, I am taking it personally." Now I know that I am being ridiculous. He can cancel plans, he can spend time with whom he chooses. What hurt me the most was his lack of response to my reply. Whenever he is being sensitive, hurt, or whatever I do what I can to make him feel better, tell him he's loved etc. So the fact that there was no communication at all after that really hurt. I also realize what could he have said really? But I have this image of him being like "whatever" and moving on. So I will see him today at work and I wonder if he'll just ignore my reply. I dont know if I should say something to him or just let it go. Just needed to vent my frustration. Thankx!
current mood: disappointed
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| Thursday, July 10th, 2008
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4:51 am - I'm still not quite sure how this all happened . . .
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hopemoon
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I fell in love with a man who is very much gay, and I need to figure out how it happened. First, allow me to explain why this is a particularly novel experience for me. I am sometimes attracted to men who are either gay, or who tend to be perceived by others as gay based on first impressions. I dated a man who identified as gay for nearly a year, for example, but I think he was bi because he dated women before his one male partner, and ended up marrying another woman after dating me. With all these men, though, they always were the pursuers and initiated every step in the dating process.
My predictions about which men are romantically interested in me, and how strong their feelings are, have tended to be highly accurate in the past. I am also the type of woman who might develop a small crush on a man from a distance, but generally, I simply am not *able* to fall in love with someone until after he has pursued me ardently and shown strong romantic interest in me. And he has to be truly "available" as well. For example, I once had a crush on a man for two years. He began flirting with me at a party, then he introduced me to his lovely girlfriend (who I did not know existed) and my interest in him literally extinguished itself in moments. That is a typical reaction for me, to such discoveries.
Now, here is the scenario:
( Read more... )
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| Wednesday, July 9th, 2008
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2:03 pm - Just one more thing that makes me giggle
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clafairy_wally
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My Fag and I sitting our computers in our study looking at iTunes store when he sees Jonas Brothers (they arent that big in Aus i dont think) listens to a clip of their msuic and announces "They're the new Hanson!" I nearly fell off my chair laughing at how silly it was! :-)
Silly I know but its one of the things I loves about me fag :D
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| Tuesday, July 8th, 2008
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1:07 am - Sooo it's that time again...
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daluved1
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Yep, my fag just met a new guy and we're going through that "new boyfriend" phase. Although, I'm so happy that he's dating again (after swearing off men because of a previous relationship), I'm a little jealous. You know how things are. He's always canceling plans, making your phone convos shorter, etc.. I can't help but feel a little envy towards the new bf.
I know once I get to know the new bf, I'll warm up to him. And after a while the thrill of a new guy will wear off and things will get back to normal but still, I miss my bff!
Is it just me or do some of you guys ever get jealous of your fag's new boyfriends?
(and yes, this is a very random post. Oh the insomnia!)
current mood: lonely
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| Sunday, July 6th, 2008
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9:19 pm - so fun!!
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glass_doll
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So.. my best homo, Tommy.. since the 7th grade (we are 25 now) has been living in DC.. a good 45minutes from me for the past 2years. We saw each otehr once a month, at best. It was hard to party in DC and then drive home, b/c he had a roomate and I hated sleeping on couches.
Well, this week he got his own place only 5minutes from me!!!! And this week already, he's been over - hanging out with me and my boyfriend 6 nights. Im so happy to have him back close to home!! I miss our midnight rides around country roads and neighborhoods .. stealing signs. Being silly!
my homo is hiding from the paparazzi
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| Saturday, June 21st, 2008
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7:01 am - Hello to all!
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lilibelle3
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Well I have been reading this site for a while now and decided to go ahead and finally post. The last 6 months or so have been a bit confusing and intense for me as I have developed a very close friendship with a gay man. This site has been incredibly helpful in sorting out my feelings and perceptions.
So something I am still struggling with and would love feedback from my fellow Fag Hags on is this: My relationship with my main fag (affectionately referred to as my gay boyfriend -gbf) is incredibly intimate, we share quite a bit with each other, we go out often, text, email and/or call eachother daily, and we love each other. My friends and family often comment on how my gbf and I are so intimate. They do not directly say, but insinuate that there is more than a friendship going on between us. This frustrates me somewhat. I am married to a str8t man and he is mostly ok with my friendship with my gbf. Being a Fag Hag I realize that those who are not, just may not get the unique and special friendship that can develop between women and gay men. But I'm getting tired of saying "he's gay, that means he likes men" Can't friendships be intimate?
current mood: cheerful
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| Tuesday, June 3rd, 2008
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10:32 am - Global Queer Rights - Take Action!!!
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| Tuesday, May 27th, 2008
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2:48 pm - A discussion I am having with my fag!
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clafairy_wally
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So my boy is single and stating that as my job as his fag hag I should be getting him laid and finding him boys. As I am nowhere near as much on the scene as him, I would have a lot harder time finding him someone as what he would himself.
Is this really a fag hags job? I've had one say yes, but I'm not sure.
Discuss.
Love Claire xoxo
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| Monday, May 19th, 2008
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9:31 am - Queer Liberationist or Gay Assimilationist?
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queerunity
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There are two opposing political viewpoints when it comes to advocacy and than of course there are a variety of more moderate middleground opinions that fall in between the Queer Liberationists and Gay Assimilationist camps.
Gay Assimilationists - This ideology is to make gay/lesbian people seem like average, normal everyday citizens in the eyes of the general public. They want to make the case that gay families deserve equal rights and recognition and they want what everyone else wants: a house with a white picket fence and 2.5 kids. Some Gay Assimilationists are not inclusive of Bisexuals or Transgender people because they feel these groups hurt the gay rights movement. This is not the case for all Assimilationists and many seek to include all LGBT people and create a sense of assimilation into the general society. Gay Assimilationists often seek to advance their agenda through corporate sponsorships and see getting big business and government on their side as a way to advance equality. The assimilationists strive to paint the LGBT community as being no different than the heterosexual world and just want to fit in. They want the rights to marriage, the rights to adoption, to serve freely and openly in the military. Part of achieving these means, Gay Assimilationists seek to tone down the sexual aspect of gay pride, they feel that sexuality is one component of gay relationships and seek to emphasize much more the loving, financial, community, and faith based aspects of LGBT relationships.
Queer Liberationists - This camp of political theory views gender and sexuality in non-conformist ways. They do not apologize for the differences of Queer individuals and do not seek to "fit in". They embrace the idea of "We're Here, We're Queer, Get Used to it!" and believe society must change to accept them rather than they change to mold into hetero-normative society. Queer Liberationists are often but not always concerned with Queer issues as they relate not only to LGBT people but also to capitalism, anti-militarism, sexism, racism and other aspects of social justice. They are less concerned with same-sex marriage, adoption, and don't ask don't tell. Many times but not always they are against the institution of marriage altogether, feel gays are liberated from the idea of raising kids, and are against gays serving in the military because they are anti-military to begin with. Queer Liberationists often disagree with the idea of corporate partnerships and having big business and government intervene in LGBT issues. Queer Liberationists do not seek to hide their sexuality and gender expression, they seek to embrace it and encourage what has conventionally been frowned upon as inappropriate.
These are two diametrically opposed political camps. Most people have various opinions that don't fall so heavily into one party or the other. Where do you lie and what are your thoughts?
http://queersunited.blogspot.com/2008/05/open-forum-queer-liberationist-or-gay.html
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| Tuesday, May 13th, 2008
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9:39 am - Free Speech Where do We Draw the Line?
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queerunity
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A few interesting and controversial headlines have popped up in the news and the gay blogosphere that raise some important questions. At what point is gay activism intruding upon free speech and freedom of expression rights? Freedom of speech and expression must be protected even for anti-gay forces, because if we don't have these basic freedoms it becomes a slippery slope and eventually we will not have the right to express our opinions.
I write this in light of some stories recently, such as a student who wore a t-shirt to school saying "Be Happy - Not Gay!" at a diversity event, who got in trouble. The courts have since ruled she is entitled to wear the shirt.
What about Crystal Dixon's case with the University of Toledo V.P. of Human Resources who outside the university wrote an opinion column denouncing homosexuality, claiming it is a choice. She has been fired under grounds that she mentioned she was a worker at the school and is now suing the school.
Finally there was the case at Smith College, where the College Republicans brought in Ryan Sorba who created a book called "The Born Gay Hoax" who spoke about bogus research regarding LGBT people. Students interrupted his anti-gay speech by screaming "We're Here, We're Queer, get used to it" the student protesters overwhelmed the room forcing Mr. Sorba to leave the campus and cancel his speech.
Youtube clip of the Smith protest:
What do you think about GLBT activism and where do we draw the line to ensure free speech rights, or is it okay to intrude upon the free speech of others when they seek to intrude on our civil liberties and spread falsehoods about our community?
http://queersunited.blogspot.com/2008/05/open-forum-free-speech-where-do-we-draw.html
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| Tuesday, May 6th, 2008
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11:45 pm - being pampered before an msi show.
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strafbmber
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i'm so butch & can't do my hair or make up by myself.
so, i got my boys to do it & we came up with this great idea of a photo.
a day in the life of tascha.
hehehe. ♥ :)
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11:15 am - *Rebound Dates*
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exoticboy80
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As you all know that i recently ended a 4 yrs relationship this past March 08 and Ive been going thru a transition and trying to make myself distracted with all this heartaches and sadness. Luckily, enough I have few things to do such as: spending time with my amazing friends and family, volunteering for LGBT community and go on for some dates.
In the beginning, i feel like i lost my charm and questions myself if im ready to have fun again or ready to go on dates. But interesting enough, I still have my charm and still get approached by guys. Everytime I was asked for a date, i always let them know that i just recently just got out of relationship and im really not looking for anything in particular.. Some respects it and some was disappointed.
I always tell them " I dont want u to like me the way you want to like me"
its kinda sad that i have to say that but thats how i feel.. Eventhough some of them are really interesting and sweet enough to go on more than a date.I still feel like i will need more time.
On the other hand, there is this one particular guy that i just met and interesting enough. He was going thru the same situation that I am. So far we connect so well and we even joke around that we should go for"rebound dates" together haha..
We are getting along so well that its kinda scary and im starting to have this funny "good" feeling inside and I can feel that he feel the same way.
All my thoughts are coming to my head.. What if it grows more and more..and we fully connect? Should i pursue this instinct feelings that telling me inside? Should I avoid him because this is really not gonna help me? Can 2 heartbroken guys can be together despite of their past? Is it ok to go out with him more than just a date?
Any thoughts?
Recap
Me:
ended a 4 yrs rel due to infidelity
Guy:
ended a 3 yrs rel due to infidelity as well.
(of course there is more to it )
(all- forgive my grammar and writing.. im working on it)
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10:57 am - Introducing Queers United
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| Thursday, May 1st, 2008
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12:17 am - Volunteer Opportunity
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volunteer4life
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Please pardon my cross-posting! I am trying to increase the visibility of individuals of all sexualities, ethnicities, ages, and genders at this year's Vancouver Pride events. Please don't hesitate to post this in your own journals and/or communities =)
Rumor has it...
You want to volunteer for the Vancouver Pride Society this year!
If the rumor is true, and you do want to be apart of the Vancouver Pride Society 2008 Volunteer Team, then this is how you do it!
But first off, here is what you will receive:
-Your very own (hopefully purple) Vancouver Pride T-Shirt.
-A Letter of Recommendation upon completion of your volunteer hours (upon request).
-For the completion of 3 or more shifts, you will get a free Vancouver Pride Society Membership.
-Log volunteer hours for school or other programs
-Meet amazing new people! Network! Make new friends!
-Attend our groovy Volunteer Appreciation Party.
-Receive a volunteer appreciation certificate
-Develop useful skills
-Attend and have a great time at Pride events!
This year, we will also be holding 2 volunteer orientations where you will be able to meet the VPS board and some other volunteers. Further, you will recieve a brand new Volunteer Manual!
So are you ready now to find out how you can sign up to volunteer?
Go to the following page of the Vancouver Pride Society Website and fill out the volunteer form:
http://www.vancouverpride.ca/support/volunteer_now.php
That is it! I will contact you about your availability, and you will be on your way!
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12:27 am - *joy*
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dyedcities
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Finding this comm has seriously just made my year. And, you know, ensured that my schoolwork is dead for the night.
Hullo, new here. I am also one of those fag hags in a group with more fag hags than gay boys. Actually, we only have one guy that us six girls share. There is a major fag shortage...
Query: doe anyone else suffer from fag hag jealousy? It is almost like competing with another girl for the affections of a straight boy, except we're fag hagging. Any advice on dealing with this?
current mood: blah
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11:04 am
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clafairy_wally
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So.....I'm about to move in with my no. 1 boi.
It feels right, but I'm a little scared.
We're so much like Will and Grace it frightens me(although I'm will he's Grace somehow!)
Any thoughts from the lovely fags and hags here?
Love Claire xoxo
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| Tuesday, April 29th, 2008
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10:53 pm - aw, yay. :)
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strafbmber
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i've known this boi for 3 years now but, didn't end up hanging out with him until after he sobered up. turns out he's insanely awesome & not to mention super flippin sweet.
us in washington d.c. for the green apple festival on 4/20 (no, we weren't smokin up). here are more pics along with two of my older bois.
and, zomg.
my boi finally was able seperate himself from his boyfriend & spend my birthday with me. ;D
yayyy!! ;D
here are more pics.
sorry if the pics're so big & hopefully someone else will understand my happiness. ;D
current mood: bouncy
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| Monday, April 28th, 2008
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7:38 pm
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diaryofafaghag
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In response to heat they're getting from the American Family Association, P&G is conducting a phone poll to see if people are for or against the Luke/Noah storyline on As The World Turns. Even if you don't watch the show, please consider taking a quick moment to support boy kissing and thwart homophobic bigotry. The poll is completely automated. You don't have to talk to anyone. And it really does take all of a second to register your opinion.
Just call 1-800-331-3774 and press #2 to get to the ATWT poll, then press #1 to continue the storyline.
Please spread the word if you're so inclined.
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| Saturday, April 19th, 2008
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10:33 pm
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aster
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As the spawn of a gay man living in the gay capital of England pertaining to many of the traits of fag hag-ism, I thought I'd drop in and say hello, mainly for the purpose of trying to find out whether there are actually any other girls (or boys) with gay parents out there?! I have been called my dad's fag hag, questionably enough! I hope it isn't against the rules (I did read them but obviously don't want to step on anyone's toes so please delete this if inappropriate) for me to advertise my brand new community - ![[info]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/community.gif) gay_dad - here.
I have no idea how else I am supposed to get through to other gay spawn of the world?! So yeah. And love to all you fag hags. x
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