lightningbolt ([info]lightningbolt69) wrote in [info]empaths,
@ 2004-01-02 17:23:00
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I wanted to see how many of you got your powers from a dramatic event and if you didn't when and hoe did they start?


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[info]db_cooper
2004-01-02 04:16 pm UTC (link)
I started to notice becoming extremely empathic after I lost my girlfriend in a car crash back in 95.... i think I always had always had the intuned sense but I think i just ignored it.... but I have defintely honed it recently.... i stopped talking about it tho since people start to look at you funny if you share some intuitions you might have about them and they come true....

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[info]lightningbolt69
2004-01-02 05:52 pm UTC (link)
Thankyou I need this for some reserch i am doing

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My comment
[info]shaker_mike
2008-08-28 12:29 pm UTC (link)
Yep, some people will be skeptical so you've got to be careful who you mention it to. There are people out there who may think you're some kind of evil witch or demon.

It's human nature to be afraid of what you don't understand so I try to be charitable with the skeptics. They just don't have anything they can relate to regarding the gifts that we're all talking about. They don't have a point of reference so give them a break and move on.

Shakes

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[info]manoflight
2004-01-02 04:30 pm UTC (link)

Started being able to read people around the 8th grade and then empathic gift started reacting around the last of my 8th grade year. Then started getting visions of things after i predicted my Gmas death a week before,all before 17. So never really had tramatic experiance. But things started happening around 8th grade.

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[info]lightningbolt69
2004-01-02 05:53 pm UTC (link)
I am suprised nothing happened to start your powers. And i am sorry about your grandma

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I absorb people.
[info]shaker_mike
2008-08-28 03:03 am UTC (link)
Ok, I think I know what you mean. Unusual things have been happening to me on and off all of my life.

It's hard to describe but I think I've always had some kind of special and hidden gift. But for the life of me I don't have a clue what I'm supposed to do with it! Even if I wanted to control or harness it, I wouldn't know how.

Here's what's up with me:

1. I'm 53 years old. I'm half English, half American and born in England where I have a huge extended family. Many of my relatives speak of unusual things happening to them.

2. What is this gift or "unusual thing"? I have an uncanny and sometimes irritating way of absorbing people. I speak as they speak with my own inner voice. I usually end up liking those people. On the other hand, I can end up disliking them. It's like I become the other person. That's especially irritating if the person I've absorbed turns out to be a horse's ass. Luckily, once I've figured out the person in question is an ass, I can get him out of my head. I didn't mention that I can only recall absorbing men (no, I am not homosexual).

Anybody out there experience anything like this?

Thanks for reading this.
Shakes

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[info]ophiomancer
2004-01-02 06:14 pm UTC (link)
I started to become more...well..."aware" of my abilities when I was 13, after my grandmother died. It wasn't very traumatic for me, though. The pace of my development or awareness just really picked up almost immediately after it happened.

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[info]lightningbolt69
2004-01-02 06:38 pm UTC (link)
ok i am sorry about your grandmother but would you say that "jump started" your power or just you started to use it after that?

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[info]zibblsnrt
2004-01-02 06:30 pm UTC (link)
As far as I can tell I've basically always had it. My becoming consciously aware of the fact showed up around when I was sixteen.

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[info]lightningbolt69
2004-01-02 06:37 pm UTC (link)
Did anyone get you into it or anything like that and if not i have some other questions if u don't mind?

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[info]zibblsnrt
2004-01-02 06:51 pm UTC (link)
Nobody specific, no. I've had a bunch of odd philosophical leanings for some time, and my figuring out the empathic part was part of a list of things which happened back then, bringing that, my concepts of fate, and several other things all falling into place.

I don't view it as a thing that can be given or taken away, and my way of seeing it explicitly rejects most of the religious/spiritual requirements so many people seem to think are a part of it. To me, it's innate, like sight or hearing, and I just grew to realize I was making use of it.

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[info]lightningbolt69
2004-01-02 06:58 pm UTC (link)
That is very cool ok thankyou very much

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Innate
[info]shaker_mike
2008-08-28 12:04 pm UTC (link)
Yep, I think you're on to something there. It is innate and very subtle. I guess you could call it a "sixth sense". I don't fear it at all. I liken it to a natural talent. For instance, some people are predisposed to various sports, music and many other things that help those people become the experts in their fields.

From what I can see and being new to this forum, it looks like we all have something in common. We've all experienced things that most people do not experience. I'm not sure what to make of that but I'm glad I found this forum.

All the Best
Shakes

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replying again
[info]manoflight
2004-01-02 06:44 pm UTC (link)

There is not one way for everyone to gain there abilities it verys in so many different people. I do believe openeness accelerates the gifts. Being able to accept and move on and believe to me is key to become stronger and get in better control of your gifts. Knowing your limits is good too, but most of the things that make me be able to control so much of my gift is to stay focused and in always remember your in control. Think somewhere in the bible it says, no one will ever know everything the mind can do. Something to think about.

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[info]lightningbolt69
2004-01-02 07:00 pm UTC (link)
True thankyou for your input

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[info]mihrage
2004-01-02 07:19 pm UTC (link)
I've always been extremely sensitive, I don't remember exactly when I learned that the sensitivity I had was empathy and that not everyone was graced by it. I took it for granted most of my life because it was so natural for me, like breathing.

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[info]gwynnpuppy
2004-01-03 12:38 pm UTC (link)
same here ive always been hyper sensetive to certain things and people..I never realized what it was til i read up on it*L*Then i try to find out about others like myself.My childhood was tramatic but nothing ever cause it to be like a bolt of lightening saying "oh you're empathic now!" i just always kind of knew i could feel what others felt.

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[info]lightningbolt69
2004-01-03 01:53 pm UTC (link)
ok thank you for the answer

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[info]garfie
2004-01-03 06:30 am UTC (link)
I had always been aware of "something" but at 17 I was run over by a four wheel drive with a trailer while I was riding a pushie. I was pretty messed up and was supposed to be dead, after that it was like someone had flicked the "full power switch". That was 19 years ago and I have learned a whole lot more since then, but nothing quiet matches the intensity of when it first kicked in.

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[info]lightningbolt69
2004-01-03 01:57 pm UTC (link)
I suspect most of us are like that I hope I am wrong but for some when they are "activated" like that some times they don't have allot of control and why this is just a theory in most of the cases I have witnessed this seems to be true. Any thought? and don't be afraid of offending me I asked.

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[info]fallonmay
2004-01-03 02:44 pm UTC (link)
Um...I've just always had them. My father has them, my grandmother had them. It's a thing. It's most often genetic.

I can't see how anyone could just 'get them' from a dramatic event. They may have been lying dormant until that event, but I don't think they would just pop up out of nowhere.

That's my two cents anyhow. ^_^

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My strange theory
[info]lightningbolt69
2004-01-03 02:57 pm UTC (link)
Your right they don't pop out of no where. I believe in past lives so I also believe that most people in their first life had a power whatever it might be. Now a days they should be lying dormant in some the people r ready so they get them back but in others they are lying there and should only release if they are ready or if they are "activated" this increases their power as-well as gives them the knowledge to control or at least contain any power they have such as empathy. But I have noticed that in a dangerous situation or a dramatic event as a weird type of self preservation the power will "activate". I don't really know why yet but it seems to be a common theme with some empaths as well as others with different powers. I know that sounds strange but it is just an opinion.

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[info]shaadofala
2004-01-04 12:21 am UTC (link)
Sorry.
I have had my ability since I was Born. They were developed at age 2. My mother recalls many events in which i was linked to another person very strongly.
I have also had my gift of animal speak and auratic tending since then.
I believe they were gifts from my Lord and my Lady.

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[info]xanitidium
2004-01-05 10:50 am UTC (link)
What does auratic mean? I looked it up on dictionary.com and it didn't know either. Sorry, but I like to know what most words mean.

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What "auratic" mean
[info]shaker_mike
2008-08-28 12:15 pm UTC (link)
I'm guessing that it means the ability to see people's auras. I knew a teenage girl at one time who told me she could see auras. Just to cover all bases, the aura is energy that surrounds your body. If you are leaning toward evil, your aura will consist of dark colors. This is also true if you're ill or very depressed. In contrast, a bright colored aura full of rainbow colors indicates that you're happy, giving, caring and generally a pleasant person.

I don't claim to be able to see auras but that sure would be a nice gift to have. Oh well....I'll just keep working on the gift that I think I have. This forum helps me do that.

All the Best
Shakes

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[info]quempel
2004-04-24 01:15 am UTC (link)
I think I've been empathic for alot of my life, but when my exgirlfriend just said to me one day 'I know your empathic' only then I was I completely concious of it, because it had a label. I think its just something inherent in me.

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[info]anothertale
2004-07-21 06:55 pm UTC (link)
I believe that I have always had a slight gift in Empathy. I think that it was stronger when I was younger, though. I think that's because I had practiced it more. I think it later went almost dormant from lack of use. I lived on campus during my first year of college, and I was being blasted by various emotions. It was horrible. I had such an awful time trying to sleep. At the time, I wasn't sure what was going on. I tried couseling, but the counsellors at school were horrible. After meeting someone else with Empathy, I realized that I had it (and it was causing the chaos in my head). Things became a bit easier after I realized that some of the emotions weren't my own. It was like a burden was lifted. After this, my Empathy was heightened for some time. I think it could have been influenced by recent heartbreak.

I think that Empathy can be dulled through lack of use, shielding, and apathy. I noticed that I can become overly apathetic, because if I'm not, then I get way too worked up about things.

My grandmother is also empathic, and she used to have preminitions in her dreams. I think the dreams stopped when she began maxing out on prescription drugs. I think Empathy can influence manic depression, bipolarism, and various other mental instabilities if the proper precautions aren't taken.

-Shadow-

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[info]alcira
2005-01-03 10:09 pm UTC (link)
don't ever tell any medical professional that you're empathic. good lord especially if you already have depression or some other mental instability - I have mood swings that look like bipolar for example.

sheesh, I have a tale to tell about living on campus. it doesn't go dormant, just works better when you are around pleasantry and becomes bombarded when you are around gentrified assholes who like to be cruel.

as an empath, I've learned about cruelty that people enjoy it, even we empaths get a kick while it results in physical damage for us. (in my cause acne, and one bad incident of glandular fever at the beginning of the semester), empathy is never ever dulled, its there like being able to drive or ride your bike. if you live in a city, for example, you don't drive for weeks and then you suddenly drive and remember how even if occasionally you make mistakes.

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[info]panther1397779
2004-08-09 08:48 am UTC (link)
I've had it since I was born, but at the age of 12 they were boosted it seems. At that time it felt like my head was boosted with information and knowledge I was'nt aware of it's origin, but I opened up to it and I've had no regrets to now. But I have always been hungry for knowledge. Shields have always been a spesialty of mine I have always been able to shield myself from whatever, whenever needed, not needing to spend much energy at it at all, but I prefer to absorb and learn. I don't know how normal this is but it seems that the energy I absorb can be changed into any other form I might wish. And bullies and the likes seems to fear me. Everytime such people get me mad they seem to freeze on the spot or turn and run, and I haven't even touched them.

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[info]lightningbolt69
2004-08-11 06:53 pm UTC (link)
thx so much for the comment it really helped

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[info]laina_182
2005-02-16 03:52 am UTC (link)
I've always had them, ever since I can remember. Only recently did I realize that not everyone can read others emotions.

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[info]twilightfalcon
2005-08-09 02:47 am UTC (link)
Hmm, well I can't really place a finger on my empathy. I've always been sensitive to the emotions of those around me, especially people I care a great deal about, and family members. Most of the women, and some of the men on my mother's side of the family seem to have empathy to a certain extent, some greater, some lesser. I didn't really realize what I always felt was empathy until I was around 13-ish; it was actually when I began reading Mercedes Lackey's Valdemar books, which deal with characters who had empathy, and I recognized that what I had was a lesser form of what these characters had. Silly as it may sound, it's true.

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[info]lightningbolt69
2005-08-09 06:31 am UTC (link)
cool thx for your reply and i find it so funny people still reply to this it is so old

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[info]wikedrumination
2005-08-26 11:51 pm UTC (link)
I am 27 and i just... litterally a week ago realized that what i felt was not normal to everyone. That may sound strange but to me it is so normal to "feel" certain things, to experience emotions to deeply that i thought everyone was this way... imagine my surprise! LOL

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[info]wizwom
2005-11-17 05:21 am UTC (link)
My abilities slowly formed and got more clear as I grew up.
The stress of my adult life - and, frankly, a desire to avoid a number of the abilities - has led to me blocking most of them, most of the time.

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Trauma
[info]jupiters_galaxy
2005-12-04 11:03 pm UTC (link)
My abilities can after a series of traumatic events in my life, including the suicide of my father when I was 3 and the loss of my grandfather when I was young. I really started becoming empathic when I turned 12, after another series of traumatic events. I too felt like everyone felt the same way I did and I didn't know I was different. I was diagnosed with Bi-Polar and Fibromyalgia, and sometimes the degree of pain I fell gets so out of hand, I have trouble walking and I can't move. I only just found out a few days ago that there was a name to what I was feeling, so here I am.

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[info]epiphanypoet
2006-01-05 10:25 pm UTC (link)
I noticed my empathic abilities when I was in late childhood (around 8 or 9) but for as long as I can remember I've been able to sense other people's emotions. My uncle came to live with us and I would always feel sick to my stomach around him. I told this to my mother and she said I was just being "shy". So I would avoid him whenever I could. But a few months afterwards I found out that he had molested my younger cousin. When I went to visit her there was this sickly uncertain/ashamed feeling there. For years afterward I didn't know what to call it until I met another empath two years ago.

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[info]lightningbolt69
2006-01-06 10:15 pm UTC (link)
wow
i would say cool but it sounds wrong
u know qhat i mean
i always like hearing these stories i just wiosh urs was a happier one
~Eric

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When You Noticed It
[info]shaker_mike
2008-08-28 12:24 pm UTC (link)
I'm sure you've heard the old saying "Use it or lose it". I think I'm going to start paying more attention to my gift. I'm going to just be more aware of it as I go through my days and nights. In other words, I'm going practice using it.

We'll see what happens.

Shakes

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[info]elanor_g
2006-07-28 02:34 pm UTC (link)
within 2 years I lost 2 family members and my best friend, I was 13 at the time. It was after that when i found out more about the empathic abilities, Its only been in the past few years that I've labled myself as an empath.

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My experience...
[info]bosquegv
2007-06-04 06:09 pm UTC (link)
Just like some of the other people who replied, I can't recall anything that just suddenly kick it on. I have always been this way, and I always had figured it was normal and everyone responded to people this way. It wasn't until I was in junior high school that I, thru my karate school, met a psychic friend who explained to me that no everyone can read people like us. Just throwing this out there, but I also tend to be very judgmental of people because of this. At least I attribute it to this. I don't think that something tramatic manafests empathic ability, but I do believe that a persons life experiences will decide how they use their abilities. For example if before you had control or trust of your abilities you were constantly hurt by people than you learn to use your sense as a defense to help you identify peoples intents before getting close to them. Also if growing up people were always telling you how insightful and sympathetic and understanding you were then you end up tending to use your abilities to help people as in counseling. But I just take this from my own life experience with my abilities.

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Funny thing about that...
[info]amaya_moonstone
2007-12-10 01:36 am UTC (link)
It's pretty funny, I think... I've been like this all my life and never knew it wasn't normal until I saw an anime series with a character who was an empath and when they were talking about his "ability" I was sitting there thinking "you mean not everyone can do that?!" XD Imagine my surprise when I found out quite suddenly that what I had always perceived as being perfectly normal - reading others emotions - turned out to be not so normal after all. *ponders* that was about 2 years ago. Ah what interesting 2 years it's been since then...

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